u/Good_Hovercraft_9151

I’m 26, the oldest of four sisters, still living at home with a full-time job. I passed my driving test last October and my 18-year-old sister passed in March — only 5 months apart.

We’ve both been looking for our first cars together, with her telling me she’s buying hers outright. I’m financing mine, and she’s taken a huge interest into what type of car I’m buying, the plate (this she really has been asking about) specifics and more. I’ve been sending her listings and even offered to take her to look at cars as well. When I told my dad I’m financing, my dad called a waste of money He’s always used the excuse that because I didn’t pass at 17/18, that’s why he didn’t buy me a car, fair enough, I accepted that.

Recently I came home from work without them knowing and overheard my dad and sister having a loud conversation. Turns out she’s going through the process of financing a car this whole time (despite telling me she was buying outright), my dad has been taking her to dealerships, and he’s going halves on the deposit (~£2,500) AND the monthly payments on a brand new 2026 VW golf or a Vauxhall Corsa. My sister also has a very large trust fund that she received from the government and also my parents contributed to, she was given access to this at 18. So her money that she’s using for the deposit is coming from her trust fund, I also didn’t receive anything from my parents at all and they didn’t save Anything for me when I was younger. When I directly asked my sister if she was considering finance, she flat out lied to me and said no.

Every time I’m around, they immediately change the subject or go quiet. When I asked my dad previously if he’d contribute to my deposit, he said absolutely not.
I’m not entitled to his money but the lying and secrecy really hurts and I can’t understand why they wouldn’t be open and honest about it? And the principle feels off when his excuse for not helping me never actually applied to her either as we’re both financing and it’s both our first cars?

Am I being ridiculous , or is this genuinely unfair? Also do you guys have any advice about how to move on in this situation and what I should do?

I’m 26, the oldest of four sisters, still living at home with a full-time job. I passed my driving test last October and my 18-year-old sister passed in March — only 5 months apart.

We’ve both been looking for our first cars together, with her telling me she’s buying hers outright. I’m financing mine, and she’s taken a huge interest into what type of car I’m buying, the plate (this she really has been asking about) specifics and more. I’ve been sending her listings and even offered to take her to look at cars as well. When I told my dad I’m financing, my dad called a waste of money He’s always used the excuse that because I didn’t pass at 17/18, that’s why he didn’t buy me a car, fair enough, I accepted that.

Recently I came home from work without them knowing and overheard my dad and sister having a loud conversation. Turns out she’s going through the process of financing a car this whole time (despite telling me she was buying outright), my dad has been taking her to dealerships, and he’s going halves on the deposit (~£2,500) AND the monthly payments on a brand new 2026 VW golf or a Vauxhall Corsa. My sister also has a very large trust fund that she received from the government and also my parents contributed to, she was given access to this at 18. So her money that she’s using for the deposit is coming from her trust fund, I also didn’t receive anything from my parents at all and they didn’t save Anything for me when I was younger. When I directly asked my sister if she was considering finance, she flat out lied to me and said no.

Every time I’m around, they immediately change the subject or go quiet. When I asked my dad previously if he’d contribute to my deposit, he said absolutely not.
I’m not entitled to his money but the lying and secrecy really hurts and I can’t understand why they wouldn’t be open and honest about it? And the principle feels off when his excuse for not helping me never actually applied to her either as we’re both financing and it’s both our first cars?

Am I being ridiculous , or is this genuinely unfair? Also do you guys have any advice about how to move on in this situation and what I should do?

I’m 26, the oldest of four sisters, still living at home with a full-time job. I passed my driving test last October and my 18-year-old sister passed in March — only 5 months apart.

We’ve both been looking for our first cars together, with her telling me she’s buying hers outright. I’m financing mine, and she’s taken a huge interest into what type of car I’m buying, the plate (this she really has been asking about) specifics and more. I’ve been sending her listings and even offered to take her to look at cars as well. When I told my dad I’m financing, my dad called a waste of money He’s always used the excuse that because I didn’t pass at 17/18, that’s why he didn’t buy me a car, fair enough, I accepted that.

Recently I came home from work without them knowing and overheard my dad and sister having a loud conversation. Turns out she’s going through the process of financing a car this whole time (despite telling me she was buying outright), my dad has been taking her to dealerships, and he’s going halves on the deposit (~£2,500) AND the monthly payments on a brand new 2026 VW golf or a Vauxhall Corsa. My sister also has a very large trust fund that she received from the government and also my parents contributed to, she was given access to this at 18. So her money that she’s using for the deposit is coming from her trust fund, I also didn’t receive anything from my parents at all and they didn’t save Anything for me when I was younger. When I directly asked my sister if she was considering finance, she flat out lied to me and said no.

Every time I’m around, they immediately change the subject or go quiet. When I asked my dad previously if he’d contribute to my deposit, he said absolutely not.
I’m not entitled to his money but the lying and secrecy really hurts and I can’t understand why they wouldn’t be open and honest about it? And the principle feels off when his excuse for not helping me never actually applied to her either as we’re both financing and it’s both our first cars?

Am I being ridiculous , or is this genuinely unfair? Also do you guys have any advice about how to move on in this situation and what I should do?