u/GoldDiamondsAndBags

Did your bichon stop growing/gaining weight. My little girl is 11 months. She’s currently 10 lbs and was projected to be around 12 lbs. I’d love her stay at around 12 lbs or under since we travel often and it’s harder if they’re bigger. Obviously I know that’s something I can’t control and what I have is merely a projection, and of course I love her regardless…but I want to get an idea (aside from what google says) of what to expect in terms of how much longer I have to go to get to her full size.

I have a 14 year old son. He’s in 8th grade. We have a very good relationship. He confides in me a lot, but as a typical teenager I understand there’s stuff he probably doesn’t tell me. I also understand it’s a tough age.

For some background. His dad (my husband) is an asshole. I’ll spare the details on how he’s a horrible husband and just focus on the fact he’s not a good dad either. He’s volatile, no emotional regulation and just has never established a good relationship with either of our boys so neither feel particularly comfortable sharing anything deep with him. With that being said 14 yo goes over and above to try to win him over.

I also have an 11 yo who suffers from pretty severe OCD and anxiety and although he’s gotten much better in the last year with tons of work/therapy, it has taken a lot from me emotionally since I’m the only one who parents. Of course I don’t bring 14yo into any of this, but of course the severe OCD affects us all and again as the only one who parents sometimes I can’t separate it all.

On to the point. After a few tough moments this weekend (where 14yo blew up over dumb things - which I was very understanding about (but dad was not) as I know his hormones are all over the place) he calls me separately yesterday and starts crying saying he’s having a tough time. That he’s sorry he blew up and he tries to keep all his emotions in, but sometimes he blows up. I did tell him I understand and there’s never any need to keep emotions bottled up as I’m always here to talk. He did say sometimes it’s hard to relate bc I’m old (😂) and although he knows I went through all of this many, many, many years ago…lol sometimes he just feels weird talking to me. I get it. I’m also mom, and maybe it would be different with dad, but again they don’t have that type of relationship.

He told me he doesn’t have any real friends, he feels he doesn’t fit in with friends or at school. That everyone at school makes fun of him and he laughs along bc he doesn’t want anyone to know how much it hurts him. He’s very social and he’s the one that usually befriends the kids that are “different” because he doesn’t want anyone else feeling left out and I think this makes him a target at school. He’s also the one that stands up for everyone else. He’s such a good kid and says he’d rather be made fun of than someone else feeling left out or hurt. But that he pushes it all in but it gets to him internally and he always feels horrible about himself.

I did tell him that is common at this age to feel like he doesn’t fit it. That most kids do. That he’s a good person. He should also think of himself and stand up for himself. Etc etc. Advice any mom would give. But I feel like it’s not enough. He was grateful for my words but says he knows all that.

What else can I be doing? What should I be saying to him? What else can I do to help? I know all of this is normal, but I just don’t know how to help him feel OK. I just want him to be OK and to *feel* OK. I don’t know how to do that :(

I would appreciate any advice.

Is there somewhere online where I can see what colors a certain collection came in? I’m specifically looking at a small C25 (not the mini) and I’m wondering if it ever came in rose gold or just gold.

I remember seeing a chart of colors online, but I think it was for Hermes and can’t find anything online for Chanel.