I 30f and husband 30m.
We waited to have sex until marriage which I do not regret. And before married we probably went too far with kissing etc but it was super hot and heavy!
We've been married 8 years now and sex just isn't..
We've had 2 kids which are great. He's an amazing Dad and I love him so much. We're good friends and get on well. I have very little desire for sex tbh. I don't enjoy penetration especially since having kids. He's very willing to give oral but I'm super frustrated, he's watched a lot of porn in his day which I think has ruined expectations a bit. I think he thinks he can just waggle around down there and I'll moan. I've given him so many tips over the years and told him what I like and don't like but I feel like every time we're in the bedroom it's back to square one... I regularly give him hand jobs and oral which on the whole I'm happy to do as id rather that than sex but I want to want it but I just feel deflated every time... I'm having daydreams about a one off fling with a younger guy all hot and heavy who's just so into me he'll do anything. I will not cheat on my husband but I'm super struggling right now. Help.
Tldr: tips to get spark back and get hubs to listen to desires.