u/Glittering-Cash-2309

Hi there! I’m new to this sub, but need some advice/I’d love to hear from others. Giving some context so there’s a TLDR at the end.

I’m currently almost 10 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby. My son is 7mo so I’m having back to back pregnancies. When I was pregnant with my son, I only lifted 1-2x/week until I was 16 weeks and then just went to walking a ton because I was so fatigued my entire pregnancy with him.

This pregnancy I told myself I would keep my routine of 3-4x/week lifting this pregnancy until my body physically can’t anymore hahah. I feel great aside from some nausea that has resolved. I had some brown spotting around 5-6 weeks along and had an early ultrasound to figure out why. Turns out I had a subchorionic hematoma. I was put on pelvic rest for 2 weeks. Fast forward to this past week when we had the follow up. The SCH had shrunk down to <1cm and my midwife felt comfortable to lift my pelvic rest restriction. When I asked if I could get back to my gym routine she hesitantly said yes but then once I told her I deadlift 235lbs regularly (and that’s light) she was taken aback and told me not to lift more than 50lbs. When I was on pelvic rest, I could still lift 30lbs per my midwife. I’m guessing it’s because the SCH isn’t fully resolved yet? But I’m so confused I thought weight lifting had been researched and proven extremely beneficial for pregnant women and helps with labor, delivery, and postpartum recovery. Basically looking to see if others have experienced this and how strongly should I abide by this? I went to the gym today and did a 95lb DL, afraid I was going to hurt my baby when I know I could have at least added 100lbs easily.

Any information/advice is helpful. Thanks in advance for sharing!

TLDR; midwife told me not to lift over 50lbs after lifting pelvic rest restriction when I am a powerlifter/body builder. How seriously should I take her recommendations?

My boy is 6.5mo and we hangout with my best friend and her daughter (5.5mo) weekly. We used to just go on walks or to a coffee shop when we hangout, but I’m moving into a house this weekend and we’ll have a playroom. Our meetings will evolve as nap times are harder to do out and about to meeting at my house or her house so we can keep their schedules while also having some adult time. In all my years of nannying, I never really had to show a kid how to interact and be gentle with others. My son is VERY social, he’s so sweet and kind. He’s never met a stranger. BUT he doesn’t realize how strong he is though. So there have been 2 occasions where we’ll let the kids play together and he will touch her face and accidentally poke her in the eye or something. I get it, they’re babies, but is this something they just figure out with trial and error? Or is this something that I need to teach him? My friend’s daughter isn’t quite there yet, so she isn’t as interested with interacting with him aside from smiling at him from a distance.