Job or find someone??
Marry or find job or what???
What Should I do?
I am 31 and live in the West. I am unmarried and do not have anyone in mind. I have been struggling to get a permanent job for the last 10 years. Everyone in my circle is getting married, while I am still alone, and it feels bad.
My parents and others keep telling me to get married, but I do not feel comfortable marrying without having a permanent job. I feel that if I had a stable job, I could start looking seriously for marriage. I am also unsure whether I should marry in South Asia, where I am originally from, or in the West, where I grew up, or even consider marrying a cousin.
My finances are running low. My parents are getting old, and I know they feel sad seeing everyone else’s children married with families, while I have not even found someone yet.
Some people tell me I should start looking for marriage now and trust that Allah will provide rizq after marriage. Others say I should wait until I get a stable job first.
I have a strong desire to get married, but I feel embarrassed trying to look for someone while unemployed. Please make dua for me. Getting a stable job has been a major struggle for me, and it feels like it is delaying everything in my life.