u/Funnyfatguy23

My fiancé 'F30' and I '31M' have been together for 3 years. When we first met, I made it clear that I enjoyed sex a lot. I also mentioned that there were certain things I was interested in, and she was open to trying them. However, she is quite conservative and prefers a very vanilla experi. She likes to be in complete darkness and prefers to be on top or on bottom. She won’t trybeing bent over or having sex with the lights on. She also won’t let me eat her ass, which was something I was very open about in the beginning, and she said she would try to get used to it, but she hasn’t made any attempts.

There are also other things I’m interested in that I haven’t even brought up to her because we can’t get over her aversion to lights and her ass being touched. I don’t want to pressure her into doing something she doesn’t want to do, but it seems like she doesn’t make any effort to try anything. If I had known in the beginning that she wouldn’t try, we probably wouldn’t be together.

I love her very much, and we were great together except for the sex issue. I’ve done everything I can to make her comfortable, including lighting candles, massaging her back, and working my way down to her butt, but she keeps saying that no candles are too bright. I’m not a sexually conservative person, so I’m concerned that we’re not compatible in that regard.

I also have made the argument that having the light on helps with my arousal and helps me last and perform better.
Does anybody have any insight on this?