u/Frosty_Wrongdoer7256

Need some recommendations for interior designers in the St. George area. I’m buying a home in the Ivins/Santa Clara area and everything is either that Tuscan puke or gawd awful millennial grey/white with hardware and lights from Home Depot. Who have you used? What was the process like? Looking for the good, bad and ugly. Did they source furniture, deco, hardware and lighting or did you have to do it? How were they managing a budget? My ex works for a designer in Utah County but I’d rather be covered in honey and mauled by a badger than call them.

I’ve narrowed down my house search in St G to Ivins/Santa Clara, Divario and The Ledges. I’m just curious for feedback on living up in The Ledges. I’m coming from a home in the country so a commute doesn’t bother me. Curious about lifestyle and whether the nightly rental business has a negative impact on the neighborhood. I considered Washington but my soon to ex in-laws live over there and I don’t want to spend the rest of my life in jail for ☠️ if I bump into them at the gas station.

Watched my Babygirl graduate from University today only a few weeks after my wife decided prescription drugs and booze were more important than our 25 year marriage. I hated sitting there and hearing my wife’s family cheering for my daughter from a section or two away. Separate pictures. Separate dinners. Leaves me feeling kind of empty. I can acknowledge that my wife had a hand in raising a wonderful girl but I’m a long way from over the hell she has put us all through the last 2 years and pissed at how quickly the community latches on to everyone’s favorite narrative of the beleaguered wife escaping the abusive husband. At least I’m not bitter.

How long did it take before you stopped wondering what she was doing? Where she was going? Checking her socials? I do pretty good some days and then others it feels like I can’t let it go. What did you do to put it behind you? I’m in counseling multiple times per week, I’m trying to establish a routine, I’m reading. I’m willing to put in the work. I want to leave her behind. She’s not the woman I married, in fact she has changed so much she repulses me but the memories are real. 25 years of marriage leaves a mark. Interested to hear feedback.