u/Front_Arrival109

Met (21F) my first boyfriend (22M) at school this past year. He has been in one serious relationship before. We started dating officially just under 3 months ago and went long distance 1 month ago. He has told me he loves me, I have not because I am not in love with him.

I decided to transfer for the fall which I assumed meant breaking up. He said he wanted to continue long distance if I was willing, so we have been having many abstract conversations about what that would look like/ if it should be done. He is very serious about this relationship. In one of our recent conversations we were talking and I told him that I am not in love with him. He did not respond poorly and did not see it as a deterrent. He said he had been in love once before other than with me. I asked him what being in love felt like and realized I think that he had never been in love before. He said something along the lines of "caring for someone with the intention of spending your live with them."

He is a very good man and I am attracted to him. Since this is my first relationship I don’t know if it should feel like anything else than that. We didn’t really have a "honeymoon phase" to our relationship because I was so anxious about talking to men in general.

I guess concerns are:

- I worry considering that I have not dated before that he views me as a safe bet that would not cheat on him/ make a good wife over actually viewing me as someone he is in love with. He has made comments of me having such a clean past in comparison to him.

- is he just in this relationship with me because he’s already dating someone and doesn’t want to make the effort to find someone else?

- considering that it is so early in the relationship, is it alright that I don’t love him yet?

Am I overthinking everything and just need to see where this goes, or should I spare us the heartache and end things now? Is that crazy feeling of being in love overrated, and if not will it be something that comes later ?

I F21, entered my first relationship with my bf 21M 3 months ago. After our first date I lurked on his insta with one of my friends. We looked at his following and I found his ex based on what he told me about her about her nationality (didn’t go into it significantly, just casually mentioned her because he wanted me to know his dating background). I saw that they still follow eachother. Not something I have issue with. Just to note: I do not have an instagram account.

Fast forward a few days ago, we were chatting, and he brings her up (once again this is not common, we were opening up about our pasts) he tells me that things ended poorly between them and both blocked eachother. I did not ask, he gave me this info on his own, no prompting. So, I confirm this, and he states that he ended up emailing her an apology because he felt he had been immature about it. (Their relationship end was over 2 years ago, he emailed like 2 years ago too). I double checked today and they still do follow eachother, not that this would change the fact that he lied in the first place.

Now I am not sure how to go about this. I found this out through snooping. But I don’t understand why he would bring up info I didn’t ask for just to not tell the truth. We are in long distance and are supposed to call in a bit. I like this man. How do I go about asking him about this without coming off as a psycho?

Just curious!

Last post was taken down because I was giving advice but for me personally, what helped best with my long COVID symptoms (has been 1 1/2 years) was eating red onions. Likely from the antioxidants, but I was eating them consistently for 2ish weeks just adding them on top of my food bowls. I discovered this last fall and realized I still have to eat them consistently to keep the symptoms away but they have lessened over time. Along with this I had to completely cut out gluten and red meat but most everyone already knows this.

TRY RED ONIONS. Just for a week or two. Helped immensely with my long COVID.