Sziaszok,
Tudna valaki ajánlani megbízható Muay Thai klubbot 8. kerületen belül, ahol jó a társaság, nem toxikus, és nem arról szól, hogy szétvernek?:D
Nem próbáltam még a sportot, de nagyon ki szeretnem próbalni.
So me (M25) and my ex (F25) broke up after 7 years. We met when we were 17.
It’s been 3.5 months, and she has already experienced this and that, since she went on to a dating site (we talked, that’s how I know), and it makes me feel like I am incompetent. Not just because of feeling replacable, but because of feeling like I couldn’t do the same, because I’m incompetent.
Like a child in the wild, who’s surrounded by competent adults. I feel like I have no chance in getting recognized by girls, would be incompetent in being a good company, being good in bed or in another relationship, (not that I’d want to get into one any time soon).
My overall confidence is shaken wildly, and I’m unsure how I could start feeling like a confident adult.
I guess my issue is stemming from the fact that I’ve never had to experience the world alone, since for 19 years I lived at home with my parents, and after that I was in a relationship which provided the safety net of running somewhere for emotional support when things got tough. Then we moved in with my ex and lived together for about 4 years which just furthered my emotional safety. But since it’s gone I just feel like I’m on the bottom of the social hierarchy and that I couldn’t perform in social situations. Like someone would come up to me and I’d subconciasly compare myself to them and just feel less, not enough.
I don’t have a very good job, but planning on switching soon. I have hobbies like playing the guitar, working out, consuming culture, and I have also been going out with my friends a lot lately. I also do coding in my free time, so that I can switch career paths, hopefully next year. I’m also going to therapy in two weeks.
Lookswise I know I’m a good looking guy, and since I’m hitting the gym 4-5 days a week, I also see my body becoming bigger.
I’m trying to get my shit together, and build a routine that shows me that I can rely on and take care of myself, like if I decide on doing something the next day, then I’ll do it, no matter what (with a little nuance of course).
Is there anything else I could do? Has any of you felt similarly? Would just putting myself out there, joining a dating app help? I know I’m not ready to get into another relationship, but wondering if just going on dates would give a real confidence boost, since I could conquer my fear, instead of just validation that would make me crave more and more.
So I just went to a tartar removal and feel like she made the gap inbetween my teeth bigger by removing parts of my teeth, like closde to the gums inbetween. Like the shape is different, my teeth became more oval. Is it possible or am I going crazy?
The first picture is how it was before the dental cleaning and thecsecond is afterwards. Actually she said she wasn’t even removing tartar, but stain. After that I looked into the mirror, and asked if
she removed some enamel? Then she told me no, she doesn’t touch enamel, she just removes the stain.
Everywhere I read that there’s no way your teeth can change shape after a tartar removal, since they can’t get enamel off, but I’m not convinced.
Is it possible that she went too hard? I feel so terrible, I hate how my teeth look now.
So me (25M) and my ex (25F), have been broken up for about 3 months, altough we talked and met a couple times, even tho we tried to remain in no contact.
The thing is that we both want to be together, however our unhealthy dynamic and my insecurity led behaviour led to our break up.
The dynamic was basically mother-son, meaning I didn’t know how to be my own safe place so I always ran to her with my issues, and she instantly goes to the mindset of having to calm me in these situations, which eventually takes attraction away. And I only learned how to make her open up to me and make her calm with me when she’s panicking, that it was already too late.
We both love each other very much, and I decided I’ll go to therapy so that I can be a better version of myself and get through the break up. She told me she’s planning on doing the same.
However, here comes the question. We’ve just talked and we both really wish that we could make this work while staying together, but earlier we got convinced that we couldn’t. Do you think it’s possible?
What I have to work on is my confidence, overcoming my insecurities, my anxious attachement style and my emotional regulation.
In the relationship I’d have to pay a lot more attention to her needs, and to not let my insecurities dictate my behaviour.
I feel like for all of these I’d have to be alone, so that I don’t have her as a safety net which pushes me to change. However, I’m wondering if there’s a chance that we could make it work. And it’s not just me. She wants this as well, it’s just that she feels the same way.
Does any of you have any experience in this topic, let it be positive or negative?