Is there any reason I should *not* wear my waistband under my bump during pregnancy? Like no safety concerns that I'm missing or anything?
It isn't always the most comfortable, but some days I want to wear this way and although I'm not aware of any problem with doing so, I just wanted to check in and see! I am in my third trimester so the bump be bumping.
My current wash routine is just to do 4 days of diapers all at once, a pre-wash and then a main wash. But I know a lot of people do a pre-wash either everyday or every other day.
I know people say they "air dry" between pre wash and main wash - are you hanging up/ draping out each diaper to air dry? Or you're just dumping them into an airy laundry basket and they're fine? The latter seems like a recipe for mold for me, but I'm curious because if that is workable, I would consider it since it sounds super easy.
As you can maybe guess from the sub, I am a stay-at-home parent of a toddler. I am by nature a pretty patient person and obviously this serves me well when parenting. Do I have moments where I feel like I am "reaching the end of my rope," yes, absolutely, babies and toddlers can do that to you and I fully believe that we should talk about these explosion moments without shame and recognize that everybody gets there from time to time.
What's currently driving me up the wall is that my spouse reaches the "end of his rope" waaaaayyyy faster than I do.
What I'm currently super ticked about is that I asked him to watch our toddler for 2 hours this morning while I pack, since she and I are going on a trip and he is getting a child free week to himself. 30 minutes into this, he calls me furious, I won't go into the details of why he was so upset but he's going I'm getting too angry, I can't watch her anymore, I'm going to have to bring her home and you're going to have to take her because I can't do it anymore.
Now in fairness to him, when he got her in the car she calmed down and he called me back and said okay, we're going to try a different activity, I think it might be okay.
But I'm still livid. 30 f-ing minutes. This man has asked me to solo parent our toddler for a week at a time, multiple times, and he can't manage to keep his temper under control for more than 30 f-ing minutes. I can think of maybe two instances in our child's entire life where I have called him crying saying I'm super frustrated, I need help, and both times this was after hours and hours of dealing with a difficult child. (Spoiler: He did not drop everything and come home to help me. I figured out ways to pivot and safely parent our child while also calming myself down.)
Of course I want him to be safe and thus in theory I want him to have a "bail" option if he feels like he's getting too frustrated to be a good parent, but I'm so ticked that I'm expected to regulate my emotions and have basically no bail option at all, like yeah, wait five more hours until Dada comes home is my bail option, whereas he thinks he can bail anytime he pleases and puts no effort into controlling his temper and regulating his emotions so that he's able to be a good parent.
(Also just to be clear, he is not hurting our child, he's just getting really mad to the point where he's starting to feel out of control -- which again, I will defend that every parent gets to this point at some point, I don't think that feeling in and of itself is the problem, I just think it's how quickly he's getting there and how he's treating me when he feels that way. So even though I might feel like I need to divorce this dude because he's making me feel like a single parent who can't even ask her spouse to parent their child for a few hours, this is not a situation where I need to divorce him because he is harming our kiddo.)