In laws & disrespect
I am a ( 30F) married to my husband (30M) for the past year and few months. I came into our relationship with a child as I had my child at 18. My husband has been in my daughters life and has been “dad” since age (1). His parents do not acknowledge my child or treat her as if my kid is their grandkid. My child is now (12). We recently had two kids which are his biological kids. Since I had his biological kids his mom has made it a mission to degrade me.
On my wedding day she didn’t tell me I looked beautiful, she intentionally makes my life harder. His parents live really close to us and I actually pass by there house twice a day during the week day to drop off our child. They don’t ask me if I need help or ask to see the grandkids. The only time they will watch our kids is if I have an important medical appointment & I get very stressed as my husband makes it urgent that I get them right after my appointment. I had a high risk pregnancy and even when I needed to eat after my long two hour appointments I would just rush to get my kids & eat after no matter if I was dizzy or not.
She’s extremely passive aggressive. I have tried to have a relationship with his parents. They are extremely superficial and do not engage with me or speak to me. For example on our one month anniversary after we just got married his parents didn’t even bring up the wedding.
I feel so disrespected and my husband states that just how his parents are & I just have to take it. I’m starting to build resentment towards him and I’m slowly feeling like my husband isn’t my safe place because he’s allowing his parents to tear me apart.
On my wedding day his mom also asked my mom when I was getting a job, as I was a nurse turned SAHM. It’s not like I’m a loser. I’m a registered nurse with a bachelors degree. I am a very outgoing person & im honestly not one to hold back how I feel.
I have been biting my tongue and just taking it for years but now that I’m his wife I feel I deserve a higher level of respect.
My question is what can I do to save my marriage? I love him so much and he checks all the boxes besides this. At first, I didn’t feel like it was a huge deal but the more time passes the worse I feel. For example, I went over to his parents house for two hours last week & they don’t ask me how I’m doing or anything. They asked me one question and it was not in regards to anything of importance.
Do I just stick this out or is this really going to destroy or marriage. I can’t imagine feeling like this for the rest of my life & I don’t know how to make my husband understand this is deterimental to our marriage.
tl;dr in laws do not care for me or my daughter. Is it something worth staying in or should I assume it’s going to lead to divorce eventually?