u/ForsakenMost6550

Being invisible in society is no joke. Probably life’s biggest cruelty is making someone ugly.

Recognising the importance of lookism in society does not equate to someone being a violent hateful misogynist. They are painted that way because of the actions of a few. Sometimes when I read especially on AI where they suggest that most incel cultures perpetuate violent and misogynistic content it makes my blood boil and want me to pull my hair out. Most men who are chronically single are single because of their looks. They cannot show their personality because they don’t pass the looks threshold to be able to show it. Most of them are individuals who have been forced into social isolation due to bullying and rejection and all people say about them is that they are violent school shooters who call women foids and want to rape them. I personally stay away from forums like 4chan and deeper subreddits where this kind of content is shared. But there are no incel forums anymore like there used to be. Most are banned or heavily moderated which means most incels are just vocalising the importance of looks in dating.

Being alone protecting your inner peace is better than putting yourself out there just to get bullied for being who you are. Usually you also tend to get bullied for traits that are entirely out of your control. Then it’s projected that you are bullied because you are alone, rather than the other way around.