Stuck on someone I love
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I am looking for peoples view on this
I have been in relationship with a girl I met for 2.5 years now and it's been the first year was the best it was filled with understanding between us and us supporting each other through tough times but for the past she has changed drastically she has made herself distant.
( A bit of side context her family is very strict and they are not so good)
She doesn't tell me about her problems anymore, then came that even when I was telling about something in my life she used to text me back with a "Hm" or just seen so I stopped sharing my feelings as well because it was hurting me see her not care
Then after a while she started comparing me to her friends boyfriend and blaming me for a lot a stuff such as me not caring for and not asking if she is fine or if I have even thought of her mental health when I used to repeatedly ask her to share and talk to me.
And during all these times out daily talks became weekly talks
Now since December she has gone even further away I got one text in the month on December that I will text you when my exams will be over I was okay with that but the whole month of January passed and i got no texts when her exams would have ended in just the first 10 days of January .
I got a text later in the very end of January in which she told me that she hasn't been well and that she was hospitalized. I blamed myself that I thought wrong about her and continued with the support i stayed and then she again went full silent no texts or messages with until in the month of February we had our anniversary of 2 years on the 1st of Feb she didn't come online i understood that she must me going through problems no text since the last message in January.
One day I see that she has posted a story wishing birthday to a friend but she hasn't even seen the messages I have sent her which hurt me a lot . Later in the month of February she texts me one day again I question her about this incident to which she replies that i do get the phone or even if I get it my elder brother sits next to me so I am not able to text you as he might see, but I was able to post the story because she was my friend (I kind of don't believe that he would sit every single moment with her like she could have messaged)
And lastly now even after all this i stayed and waited again in complete silence but no texts or calls since this last conversation on February 27th
I made up mind that I will tell her that I cannot continue this relationship any longer like this but I will still be your friend if you need my help or need someone to talk to.
I made this decision because if I would still be seeing this as realationship i would expect her to be there for me as well when I need her and she was not able to for a long time and that had been hurting me so I decided not to see it as a relationship anymore and made up my mind to tell her this as well but she just isn't there
Some points
\- i cannot go to her house as her family doesn't know about me and she can get in trouble
\- i do not have any of her friends insta as she never gave them to me telling I don't want to tell them