Wife is being harsh to 7 yr old child
My wife has a short fuse. she is very strict with our 7 yr old daughter and has high expectations from our child for both school and religious studies. lately she has started hitting our child in order to discipline her, but not to the extent of bruising her. it is still heart wrenching. she is also emotionally blackmailing our child saying that she will stop talking to her for the rest of her life if she didnt listen to her. the other day she did exactly that and our child was very heartbroken and begged her to talk to her for hours. its become an every day occurrence where our child will cry because my wife was not nice to her. tonight she was threatening to hide the ipad because our child was not going to read 4 chapters of a school book at 9:30PM. i am unable to convince my wife to stop being so harsh with our 7 yr old child. My wife has had some episodes of poor choices due to her anger issues in the past and i have suggested anger management therapy, but she does not agree. She was also displeased with my older kid(F15) from my previous marriage about petty things and after i called her out 4 yrs ago, she stopped talking to my older child completely. i am unable to see our children grow in this environment. I have considered separation, but since i live in a 50/50 state, my wife would have access to our child and that wont resolve the issue totally. Not sure what to do.