Please help.
Hello,
My boyfriend has told me he has HOCD. This is hand in hand with his porn addiction. He has betrayed my trust and hurt me deeply. We talked about how porn is cheating and I recently found out he watches it often.
Aside from his porn addiction he is an amazing partner. He’s kind and caring. He’s a gentleman. I can tell both HOCD and this addiction is tearing him up.
I just would like to know what to do. I want to support him. I don’t want to abandon him. I’ve looked at porn addiction subreddits and everyone says to leave the person addicted. But this seems different. He doesn’t want this, he’s suffering greatly. I don’t know what to do. I love him so much.
I know he needs therapy. He knows it too. I don’t know if me staying is keeping him from healing or if me leaving would be abandoning him.