u/Foreign_Brick_8767

I am F(27) and my partner is M(28). My boyfriend and I have known each other for about 9 years, and have been dating for 2. Throughout these past two years, I have been in school. He knows how difficult, stressful, etc. this program has been for me. He also knows that I've sacrificed a lot because of school.

Anywho, I'm graduating in about a week and I am very excited because this journey has been CRAZY to say the least. Throughout these two years my boyfriend would tell me "I can't wait to see you graduate", "I better be invited to that graduation", "I want to be apart of this huge moment", etc. Even his mom has brought up wanting to come(I've met his whole family already and they love me).

But now that graduation is around the corner, he's telling me that he does not want to come because he is not ready to meet my family. This made me very sad because I wanted to share this special moment with him, but I am also not going to force him. The reason why he is not ready to meet my family is because unfortunately, he got laid off before Christmas and has been having a hard time finding a job ever since. He does small jobs here and there with his brother in law but it's not stable. He also has no car at the moment so that isn't making it any easier.

What my boyfriend is trying to avoid is meeting my family for the first time and getting asked those "so what do you do for a living?" questions. And I understand where he is coming from. Especially since I will be stepping into a career where I will be pretty "well off". So to be blunt, my boyfriend currently has no job, no car and no education. He talks about wanting to get into this and that(career wise) but rarely takes any action. I love him so much, but I feel like he should be making more of an effort to get his shit together. But anywho, that is a totally different conversation.

Am I overreacting for being sad/upset that my boyfriend isn't coming to my graduation? I understand the part of him not wanting to meet my family for the first time while he is going through this difficult patch in his life. And to make matters worse, he got laid off a month after my bday. But when my bday came around he didn't do anything for me. He was still working at the time and still making money, but he did absolutely NOTHING for me. Not even a freaking card. Mind you, his bday was a month prior to mine. And although I was broke as hell at the time, I at least managed to get him his favorite cake so his family and I could sing Happy Birthday to him. I even spent that entire weekend with him, even though I should have been studying for some exam I had the following week(which btw I ended up failing).

Am I overreacting because I've thought about just flat out leaving this relationship too because he keeps disappointing me with several different things over and over and over? The only reason why I haven't left is because he really is a sweet guy with a good heart and I really do love him. The other thing that makes it harder to leave is the fact that we unfortunately lost our baby due to a miscarriage a while back. So I also have that emotional attachment to him. And I feel like leaving him would be like losing my only connection to our baby(I know, it probably sounds silly). But he constantly disappoints me because he cannot keep his word and promises and it feels like a never ending cycle.

Hello everyone.

I'll get straight to the point. I need to pass a drug test in order to work at this hospital. The last time I smoked was for about a week straight back in March(so it's about to be 2 months). Before that, I rarely smoked. This job offer came unexpectedly and I really do want it, so I know for sure I am never going to smoke again.

I've been taking easy@home drug tests and I do see faint lines, but the cut off level is 50 ng/mL. I know the drug test for this hospital will be sent to a lab. Does anybody happen to know what the THC cut off level is at labs for healthcare jobs?

I hope that this question makes sense and thanks everyone ☺️