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For instance, compared to my friends I get 10x the amount of creepy men. When I tell my friends the stories I have they’re almost astonished and embarrassed on these men’s behalf. I really just think that they look at my body and just assume I must be promiscuous. I know this stems from misogynistic ideas so I try not to and don’t internalize it but it’s annoying. I can’t have one conversation with a man without him jumping to a sexual topic even though I’m not flirting with them, not sexual at all and I don’t dress particularly sexual. Sometimes I’m not even flirting or smiling and yet they still think I want to hear a sex joke or be asked about something pervy.

For example….yesterday I was talking to an old boss of mine. He was asking me if I wanted to go out for a coffee sometime. I said okay. Then not even 5 minutes afterwards, he sent me a naked photo of himself. Then he asked me if I was sexual and liked kissing. This isn’t the only old boss this has happened to me either there was another boss of mine that FaceTimed me naked and when I got angry and asked him why he did it he said he thought I’d be down.

Then. Today…I posted something on Instagram about the fact that I got home [from work] at 5am and a random guy that I have never talked to EVER in my life sends me a DM saying “Walk of shame you were coming from a man’s house!” This isn’t even the tip of the iceberg….I’ve been asked randomly by men who I don’t even know to make an onlyfans account, asked if I will have sex with them, asked how many “bodies” do I have. One guy even said that I must have sex everyday [haha more like once a month with the same person]

At this point maybe they’re right maybe I would make money off of this instead of being annoyed for free… I hate these men so much 😐

Please read this full post and take into consideration my experiences. I do not want to get hateful comments on this, I just want a list of possible reasons, from an objective point of view, on why this could be happening to me.

I can’t seem to be taken seriously by any man that pursues me (I don’t approach or initiate) and I don’t know why. I’m pretty sure men have only pursued me to see if they can get into my pants, but that’s about it. I don’t think anyone has actually liked me or has fallen in love with me.

To give a summary of myself, I am 27, single, never been married, don’t have kids, and I kind of have a chill and positive demeanor. I like to smile a lot but for the most part I’ve stopped doing this once I realized it could be read as mixed signals in the wrong settings.

As far as looks go, I’m generally considered pretty or at least cute by the average person I meet. I’m not really “hot” or a bombshell, I just look like a normal woman. I do get compliments everytime I go outside, at least on what I’m wearing or someone calling me adorable/cute/beautiful. I’m at an average weight for a woman (US size small), and a slightly busty shape.

To be honest, I’m kind of boring personality wise. I have a set of hobbies that I just do alone by myself like painting at home or exercising and then I’d go out to a bar like once or twice a month.

Most of the time when a man pursues me he would only text my phone for long periods of time, compliment me with nice words and false promises but then never delivers on them and never asks me out on a date or have a plan to see me. Or, we go on a few dates and it fizzles out, for example he’ll ghost me without saying anything, or he will come up with an obvious excuse for why he doesn’t want to go out with me anymore. Some excuses I’ve gotten include:

“I don’t like going outside” “I’d rather just stay home and chill” “Im at work too much” “It’s too much work to get dressed up and go outside”

Or my favorite, most unique and giggle worthy excuse that I’ve heard to date…

“I just think that restaurants are inherently evil”

I know that these are all just excuses and I personally feel if someone likes you they’d be willing to be seen in public with you. Honestly, to me it’s starting to seem like most men are ashamed of me and embarrassed to be seen with me in public. Which is strange because I don’t have some sort of Kim Kardashian type of past.

I understand that I’m not the most gorgeous girl but I am clearly not ugly since I do get compliments on most days. I also dont dress in a provocative manner, nor am I an overly sexual person. I have no idea what’s going on. I’d like men to chime in and list the possible reasons why this would always happen to a woman.