u/Fluffy-Key-5387

well not today, but I'm planning to have my partner sa graduation ko which is 2-3 yrs from now.

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I already came out last year, not planned just my parents found out my rs and they didn't took that well, even after long messages of explaining that this is who I am. Even went far to make me separate with my gf and banned from seeing her.

I already set my plans that I won't be seeking anymore acceptance or validation from them, when I came back at our house I've told myself: finish school, have a job, and move out.

but journey wasn't easy, rn I'm still struggling how to make things easier (even planning to accept my father's na it's okay for us to be tgt just friends only = have to pretend again and gf doesn't want it anymore me either) or I should just settle for what I have now and focus on long term goal.

I've set this kinda long/short term goal that someday, I can come out again but this time on my own terms. I wanna do it before my graduation and I've been planning to study well and get a job (side hustles or atleast experience so i can have a stable job just after graduation).

i've been taking everyone's advice on me in reddit to come out when I'm independent, and financially stable.

Question:

I need tips on how to come out AGAIN. Since i already did naman na, i wanna know if any of u successfully got through coming out AGAIN.

And is my plan or decision okay?

context:

so i came across this video on tiktok abt wlw couple that's struggling cuz parents are against them. So i read some comments yk, like i reached the end of the comment section. There are only 4 outcomes in general:

1.) Parents accepted it later on cuz they fought for it, it takes months to years.

2.) Some parents didn't, they just built a new life away from the homophobic parents.

3.) Some got accepted, but eventually got cheated on.

4.) Some didn't fought their way and separated.

Out of the 4 outcomes, #1 outweigh them all. Some stories do include, the similar experience I am having rn (forced to separate w/ partner and not allowed to see her only secretly) but difference with me and them is that they have their strength and courage to fought back and eventually later on after months and years they got accepted.

Question:

I am curious, does any of you got the same outcome as #1?

I really did have my regrets back then, because I wasn't able to fought for my partner back then nor to myself, I admit I was weak. I fought for us naman( i said i love her, and this is who I really am, in the end they threatened me to cut connections w/ them and financially) but i feel like I didn't fought enough..

My plans for now, are letting her onto our home again as just friends so we can stop the hiding..

but now, these comments gave me hope.. i don't know maybe I'm just vulnerable now. Some comments said that, they kept letting their partner come to their house, still got the worse experience, and later on they just got accepted nalang.

Fellow gays, please be honest with me cuzzzz your girl is thinking abt this 24/7 for the past 7 months in this decision. Should i settle for just friends in their eyes or fought for us again?

rn all i want was to be with her, and stop the hiding. But the pretending part? my gf can't comply, i don't want to force her though. Ako siguro kaya ko pa masikmura, but ik it's like being on surveillance camera 24/7 naman if i chose this friends decision. If I fought for us again, one by one.. i will expect the worse. again. and it will probably dealt more damage again. for bg, I'm omw to 3rd year, I'm 20, and only child.

For anyone who tried counselling here, are they physcologist or psychiatrist? and what are your experience during your visit, how long should i wait for an appointment and is it free for non-qc resident? or i've read some that it costs 50-100 pesos.

good day, has anyone here tried the free counselling offered by tala hospital?? what was your experience, and is it okay?