u/FloofMcFluffy

I went no contact with my parents 5 months ago and decided to reach out to my dad yesterday because of issues I been going through with my boyfriend of 6 years. I felt so lonely and at the same time I have a mattress and bed back home that I can go grab if one day we separate and I need to move out. We talked on the phone for a bit and I explained the situation with my boyfriend, I thought everything was going well until the “sorry you are going through that, our door is open if ever you wanna come back. Anyway, what you did to your mom though is unforgivable” as in I hurt her a lot by going no contact, but dismissing all of the emotional and physical abuse and trauma I endured as a child. He also stated “if people knew what you did to your mother, oh my god.” Making me feel like I’m the monster for setting up boundaries to protect myself. I grew up with being guilt tripped constantly and have my emotions ignored and shut down. I regret ever trying to reach out and that small hope I had left. He ends it by sending me a hurtful text message.