Hello I've been going through something with my parents that bring me to the conclusion I need to be cut off from them I'm 17m and I have realized over the past year my parents are horrible bigoted people I have tried to educate them and correct them in there beliefs they are unwilling to reason with factual based arguments or moral ones they're responses always the same taking there years of experience in life over my 17.
My parents have been extraordinarily rude aggressive and unwilling to accept the fact that they are hurting me every time they don't get a response out of me they want after they scream and yell at me profusely they will blame it all my hurtings and problems on someone close to me who's only ever motivated me to stand up against them My parents regularly try to isolate me away from someone who's trying to help me stand up for myself against their aggression I would like to clarify that my parents don't beat me My father is only threatened to slap me once when I said "god damn" after a while of my parents regularly growing more aggressive aggressive towards me because of the fact that I was upset about how they were treating me I eventually would stand up to them and start yelling back anytime I would even have a slight face of either sadness or anger because of something incredibly rude they lie to me regularly
My mother told me I had manipulated them unintentionally after I had just started to give them one worded responses My mother would deliberately cry in front of me to try and make me feel guilty after she had screamed at me for an hour and what I didn't give her the response she liked because all I was saying was one worded answers with a very monotone lack of caring voice she would call me manipulative and start yelling your manipulating me over and over when my dad came home and that was forced to apologize for things that were not my fault I. I think I recall saying "I I must be horrible I'm manipulated you" then she would go on to say but you didn't know you were manipulating me it's fine she only would stop being extremely rude aggressive when I would just submit to whatever she wanted to yell at me about. After a while I was getting more and more upset and not reacting to how they treated me just kind of let them do what they wanted eventually someone that cared about me would motivate me to start talking back
They would listen in on how they were treating me and encourage me to actually stand up for myself trying to at least correct them as to why I feel away My parents would try to blame somebody that I cared about for being upset attempting to Make them seem like an enemy to me even though the reason I was sad all the time was because of my parents constantly not understanding and refusing to take blame for the things they've done. I needed my father to go to the police for me at one point and he kept putting it off eventually I was able to convince him to but nothing I didn't want to wait it took me a long while of convincing him that I needed him to do this for me and he seems so put out by it but at least he did it eventually.
After a while I oh arguing back against my parents whenever they wouldn't refuse to take responsibility for me being upset My dad would begin to say you're a man you don't act this way and things of that nature did their constant aggression and always trying to put me down emotionally and make me go back to submitting to them instead of letting them try to say horrible things racist things homophobic things and try to cut me off from people that were only ever kind to me someone was on call with me once and was listening in getting my parents I had asked for a therapist due to some unrelated things I had been going through both my parents are trying to convince me out of it My dad would constantly say he doesn't believe in therapy and that they're just going to send me to a mental hospital and put me on a bunch of meds I don't need. Eventually my parents would begin lying about how they treated me to my face trying to convince me that they weren't ever yelling and screaming at me and that I was being manipulative I couldn't really handle it anymore I was tired of having to be on my toes waiting for an argument to occur around my parents feeling so uncomfortable around them after a while the person I was on call with tried to call the police.
Unfortunately they weren't able to and so I had to end up doing it myself when they had arrived I've never seen my dad so angry at me but I knew he was hiding it I could see it it didn't stop him from him grabbing my arm and throwing me against a wall outside after that the police pull them aside and started talking to him about whatever I couldn't really hear and they started talking to me I had told him everything about how they were treating me they didn't really have anything that they could do I would like to clarify calling the police wasn't my first option I had tried to go and asked to stay at my grandparents house for a while but I was forced to apologize for even asking My dad was laughing at me with how angry he was I think he was trying to intimidate me. after the police had left My dad took my phone trying to keep me away from talking someone about what happened
After Time passed arguments just got more and more heated and I would feel more and more uncomfortable around my parents after a while my mom had sent me a message meant for my dad accidentally and message was a wall of text describing The person I was on call with my boyfriend was saying a bunch of horrible things to me and and when I saw the message my mom it sent to me that she meant to send to my dad I was extremely upset and angry because it was all a lie and I was having a normal conversation and when I called out my mother for it she was giving me an attitude about your keyboard glitched trying to convince me it was just a mistake and those all that I made it very clear that I wanted to leave the house and that's what I was going to do and I blocked her call my dad about it he he was obviously defending her without question not even caring to see how it wasa obvious lie but what really upset me the most My dad told me that my mother thought I was going to hit her just because I was yelling when I called her out for her lie out of all the times I've yelled back at her when she yells at me she never gave it in but when I actually caught her lying with irrefutable evidence apparently she was scared of me Even though I made it very clear I won't be interacting with her at all whatsoever and that I wouldn't even be in her vicinity I was leaving the house
After a while the arguments between me and my dad would just get worse anytime I defend myself he would just tell me to lose the attitude as spiteful as he could be I didn't really care about trying to reconcile after he was telling me that I'm a man and that I'm not supposed to act this way anytime I'm sad instead of just laying down I have to be a man and go workout anyway belittle me as much as he could trying to make me feel less or just for being sad anytime I would cry you would get even angrier at me after the end of every argument he'd always end with "I'll always love you you know that right" or "we have to build a bridge" I'm fully ready to cut off my parents but I am so incredibly not self-sufficient I can barely I can't even drive 17 years old I'm. failure and almost every since anytime I ask my dad to teach me how to cook it's always "yeah" and then never does All I ever learned how to do was make pancakes on my own and I still can't really do that anyways I'm scared about my mother for when I cut them off if I'm even able to be self-sufficient enough to I've My mom say some pretty sad cruel things that my dad had said and done to her over the years I've never seen my dad lay a finger on her but he is definitely not a good husband I've heard him say some horrifically insensitive and objectifying things about her she's too brainwashed care I don't love either of them I don't want to talk to either of them but I am still scared about what will happen to my mother if I want to cut them off I know he wouldn't beat her or anything physical but I don't think he would treat her very well at all I'm scared I just want to rid them of my life