u/Flimsy_Lab2561

Been seeing this girl for 3 months now and everything has been normal. Spending quality time, Great Sex, truly bonding, even had our small disagreements in which we discussed well and came to an understanding. Anyways to the main issue.

She broke up with this guy 2 months before we met, and according to her she was checked out the relationship for many months prior. Due to it being a LDR… this guy has tried to contact her 4-5 times since we’ve meet. She has him blocked on many socials and his number. He tries to contact on the Miscellaneous app she has, different phone numbers and through their mutuals. From what I’ve heard from her side with many detailed stories, the guys verbally abuse (with distance). In person harmless…

The relationship is new and I did voice my concerns. Explicitly how I’m not sure about seeing someone with their Ex lingering around. N’ she understood and said she’s going to “ignore his efforts until he moves on”. I personally didn’t like this method of going about it BUT it’s her past not mine. I chose to respect her and let her handle it. She said cool.

I’ve been cool with this up until a few days ago. He contacted again through another number and left a voice mail. He said the typical I’m sorry, I miss you, let’s talk, etc… along with and oh I seen you have new friend on Snap then said MY NAME. Mind you this guy is 5 years older than her stalking her every move.

I’m doing my best to mind my business but I’m not sure any more. I can’t even follow her on any apps to send stuff back and forth without this man noticing. Idk what to feel about this. Lastly, to be fair to her this man has treated her very poorly in the past so her fear is very understandable to me. However I don’t appreciate how he’s still controlling her life in a way. Opinions for both our sakes please

Hi so I’ve been with my girl for about 3 months now and regularly she’s been asking if “blank” about herself is the best or most beautiful I’ve ever had. In all honesty her as the whole package is the best to me, however she’ll ask on specifics like looks, body parts, specific personality traits like comedy, kindness, etc.

It usually goes something like this,
(her) Am I the prettiest girl you’ve ever been with?
(Me) well yeah, you’re very beautiful
(Her) So I’m prettier than every girl you’ve talked to

I don’t have any issues with any past people, therefore I feel weird just comparing and rating them along with her. I understand want validation and comfort, however I don’t want to lie when asked to compare her.

I confronted her about these style of questions and she said “well if I’ve been the best with all the other questions why does it matter if I ask them. Obviously you’re going to say me” I understood where she was coming from but what about when you ask something and your not the “best” should I lie to you? I’m just a little lost….