u/Flashy-Country-1917

I F(30) just broken off a 10 year relationship with my partner M(30). We had a dog together for 7 years but legally she is mine.

In the break I suggested that we have half and half custody of her so that we can both see her. But he refused and said he wanted her and thats that. So he called the police and told them I was refusing to leave his house and I was trying to take his dog. He then proceeded to shout in my face and thow all my things out of the front door and the window.
When the police got there, tthey saw how calm I was and I presented them with evidence that she was my dog, they said i was legally allowed to take the dog. And now I feel awful. Because he is in the house alone without me and without the dog surrounded by reminders of us both.

I had to leave this relationship due to his emotional abuse. But even after all the horrible things he has done and said I still cant hate him. I just pity him and feel guilty for leaving. Even thought I know I dont want to be with him.

Im going to let him see the dog tomorrow because i feel guilty over it, but I know i shouldn't after the way he delt with everything.

I (F30) just broke of a 10 year relationship with my partner (M30) who was emotionally abusing me.

Ive tried ao hard to make it work but I am never enough for him. He told me I was to fat to have sex with, so I lost almost 100lbs and im looking and feeling great. But now its something else that he doesnt like. Aparently im treating him like crap when I literally do everything for him. I even learned how to professionally cut and blend hair because he refuses to go to the hairdressers and wants me to do it. I do all the finances, all the jobs around the house including fixing things. I take on all the stress and then he complains because im not happy all the time. Ive told him multiple times irs because I need help but I always end up in the same situation doing everything.

Recently he has been liking other women's pictures on instagram, suggestive ones, some in their underwear. Ive told him not to because it makes me feel rubbish about myself when he's liking other girls pictures. But he thinks im being controlling and jealous. I personally think its a reasonable thing to ask a partner. I never got an apology just a half arsed "I wont do it again." But he went on to do it 3 more times.

I have finally hit my breaking point and broke the relationship off, I gave him a chance to fight for me, but he didnt and I dont want to stay with someone who doesnt want me.

So after all of this why do I feel sorry for him? Why am I worried about how he is going to survive without me. How he is gping to pay the bills. I literally kept his life afloat.

Im going back today to get the rest of my stuff and im hoping it will go peacefully but I just know he is going to try make me feel like a horrible person.

We share a dog togethet but she is legally mine, I know he will try to keep her from me. I am a fair person and I know he loves her so im happy to have her half the week then let him have her the other half. She is like a child to us. But I know he can be selfish and he wont think the same way.

Does anyone have any advice for me? Have you been through something similar and does the pain, grief and guilt get better after so long of being emotionally abused?