u/FlapJack0512

I 25M have been playing DnD for 5 years with a group I met online during the pandemic. In December a week or so before Christmas we all logged on for a session and before we started playing we began talking about our dream gifts for Christmas. One of my friends said they were hoping for some new Lego and I stated that I had always wanted a Lego Hogwarts set but I unfortunately don’t have room. We chatted for a few minutes more then got on with our game. I did notice one of my friends seemed abit quiet during the session but I just assumed they were probably tired or something. Later that night that friend sent a long message into the group chat saying how offended they were some people would bring up Harry Potter when they know how transphobic that was and it showed how we didn’t care about their mental health and should make an effort in the future never to mention it. This annoyed me because I knew the message was directed at me, so I responded with a message saying how some of us are just huge fans of something and we are able to separate art from the artist. I’m able to listen to Kanye while ignoring his current controversies. This is where I might be the asshole. I also implied they were too sensitive because if they had had real trauma they would not be offended by words. My friend is non binary and they have often flipped out on me or lost their temper if I ever misgendered them and I was kind of sick of how they acted over small offences. The DnD group was divided on our argument. They didn’t agree with how my friend was acting but they didn’t like what I said in response either. We haven’t played DnD since and it breaks my heart our group got broken up because I said I wanted a Lego set someday. Reddit Am I the Asshole?

I 25M have been playing DnD for 5 years with a group I met online during the pandemic. In December a week or so before Christmas we all logged on for a session and before we started playing we began talking about our dream gifts for Christmas. One of my friends said they were hoping for some new Lego and I stated that I had always wanted a Lego Hogwarts set but I unfortunately don’t have room. We chatted for a few minutes more then got on with our game. I did notice one of my friends seemed abit quiet during the session but I just assumed they were probably tired or something. Later that night that friend sent a long message into the group chat saying how offended they were some people would bring up Harry Potter when they know how transphobic that was and it showed how we didn’t care about their mental health and should make an effort in the future never to mention it. This annoyed me because I knew the message was directed at me, so I responded with a message saying how some of us are just huge fans of something and we are able to separate art from the artist. I’m able to listen to Kanye while ignoring his current controversies. This is where I might be the asshole. I also implied they were too sensitive because if they had had real trauma they would not be offended by words. My friend is non binary and they have often flipped out on me or lost their temper if I ever misgendered them and I was kind of sick of how they acted over small offences. The DnD group was divided on our argument. They didn’t agree with how my friend was acting but they didn’t like what I said in response either. We haven’t played DnD since and it breaks my heart our group got broken up because I said I wanted a Lego set someday. Reddit Am I the Asshole?