u/FlanNo7322

Me (18M) and a girl (19F) have been seeing each other for a little over a month now (we're not in a relationship). When I was over at her place recently I brought up exclusivity and what she thought about it and after I left her place I was on delivered for the whole rest of the day (we use Snapchat). This has happened before but when I woke up the next day she had left me on read 2 hours ago and switched her location off (we share locations, her initiation). Because of my anxiety and tendency to overthink I was convinced this was her ghosting me for good.

I messaged her "is everything ok?" and something about the conversation we had earlier and she responded and said everything was ok and that she was just in a bad mood and said it wasn't her intention to pull away.

After that happened she's been responding to me way more and faster than before. I'm worried that she now feels the obligation to respond to me fast so that I don't flip out and I'm debating whether I should bring up that morning and apologize for my reaction and tell her she doesn't need to change her texting patterns to suit my anxiety. Would that be a good conversation to have or is it unnecessary?

Snapchat says that if you have a red heart next to someone's bitmoji, it means you both have been each others #1 best friends for more than 2 weeks.

So then how is it possible that a friend of mine has multiple people with the red heart status on their snap? How can you have multiple #1 best friends who you snap with the most? Does the red heart appear just when you've been on each other's best friend list for over 2 weeks? Does anyone know how it actually works?

I (18M) started seeing this girl (19F) about 4 weeks ago. We had sex on the second date and every date after that (3) we've had sex and she's been really into it. The second to last date I was over at her place and stayed the night. We had sex before going to sleep and in the morning I tried to initiate but she told me she was still sensitive from last night and later that she wasn't in the mood.

Today (a week from the last time) I was over at her place again and we started making out but she didn't want to do anything past that. I asked what the reason was and she said she's not been feeling horny recently due to stress and mental issues (she has depression and the last week had been hard on her mentally).

In my mind I know that's probably the reason, but I can't help but fear I did something wrong. One time in bed she told me she likes when I push her boundaries and when we've had sex it's been pretty rough (hair pulling, spitting, spanking, finger blasting) all of which she liked. What I'm scared of is that now in her mind every time we have sex it's this rough overwhelming thing, which is why she doesn't want to. I can and like to be gentle too but so far I've always tried to match her energy and I'm afraid now she thinks I can only do rough sex.

Should I bring this up with her if the next time I see her (tomorrow) she's still not in the mood? Would it be undermining her own issues and making it about myself and would it come off as insecure if I brought it up?

I've been talking to and having sex with someone for about 3 weeks. We've not talked about exclusivity and I met someone else at the club and it ended in her giving me oral (no condom). Am I morally obligated to inform my sexual partner about it? Is there a significant risk of std if thats all we did?