u/FlamingMetalSystems

https://reddit.com/link/1t5zpht/video/hl3c02rr3nzg1/player

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1000s of women on an IG reel were commenting that Dutch men are commitment phobic fuckboys who are emotionally distant & stunted, notorious for cheating and stringing along multiple girlfriends, extremely stingy to the point of splitting parking fee, bad communicators, have zero conversation skills, aloof and disinterested in the women they date, prioritize male friendships over romantic relationships, and even put zero effort in the bedroom.

Despite that, the women said its so much fun to date and fuck Dutch men because they're incredibly hot.

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This got me thinking...one of biggest reasons cited by women in Europe for avoiding dating South Asian / Brown men is that they are supposedly mama's boys who only see European women as time pass and will ditch their girlfriends to marry the girl chosen by their parents.

Question: How come that's not a problem when they date / fuck Dutch men?

Answer: Because we don't have the aesthetics, faces, heights & physiques of Dutch & European men

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As South Asian men, we are bottom of the barrel in the dating & sexual marketplace in Europe and West. Most struggle immensely, remain lonely, single, celibate and have to import wives from home countries.

When the topic comes up about our situation, women, specially diasporic Brown women leave no stone unturned in perpetuating bigoted, hateful stereotypes about Brown men and cite them as reasons why they're unwanted in the dating scene. They do their best to demonize and tarnish the image of Brown men.

They do this just to cover up their sexual preference for European/White men rooted in pure physical attraction and lust.

Just because they are pathologically dishonest and scared to own their sexual preferences, they need to insult and demonize the character of an entire race of men

I am not policing women's sexual preference for European men. I fully understand that the physical and genetic traits women biologically crave and lust for are found in abundance among European men.

But I do have the right to fight for the truth. I have the right to try and dismantle the falsehoods perpetuated by women

After the new H1B Trump rules, is there an extra risk nowadays of denial of restamping for people with valid I-797 ?

Assuming you get the interview dates

I want to be clear that I’m not questioning anyone’s preferences. People are attracted to who they’re attracted to, and that’s not what this is about.

What I’m curious about is the reasoning behind this specific explanation given by Asian women for not wanting to date Asian men

>“I live in a very White locality and I don't want to date Asian men because I don't want people thinking we’re brother and sister"

• Why is this concern concern only raised by Asian women and never by Asian men?
• Why do we never hear this concern/fear regarding dating men from their own ethnicity from White/Black/Arab/Hispanic women who travel or migrate to other countries where they are a small minority?

Again, if you find men of your own ethnicity less physically attractive thats totally fine. I'm only trying to understand the reason behind this explanation

I want to be clear that I’m not questioning anyone’s preferences. People are attracted to who they’re attracted to, and that’s not what this is about.

What I’m curious about is the reasoning behind this specific explanation given by Asian women for not wanting to date Asian men

>“I live in a very White locality and I don't want to date Asian men because I don't want people thinking we’re brother and sister"

• Why is this concern concern only raised by Asian women and never by Asian men?
• Why do we never hear this concern/fear regarding dating men from their own ethnicity from White/Black/Arab/Hispanic women who travel or migrate to other countries where they are a small minority?

Again, if you find men of your own ethnicity less physically attractive thats totally fine. I'm only trying to understand the reason behind this explanation

This is for the people who say Social Skills & Charm > Looks.

I’ve realized over the years that when an average-looking guy with great social skills, someone who has a big social circle, is extroverted, fun to be around, and spends months building connections and friendships with women, finally does make his move and asks a woman out, the reaction is still that of doubt

The woman still finds herself thinking "𝘏𝘦’𝘴 𝘢 𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵 𝘨𝘶𝘺, 𝘧𝘶𝘯𝘯𝘺, 𝘯𝘪𝘤𝘦, 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨..𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘐’𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘩𝘪𝘮...𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘴 𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘋𝘰 𝘐 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘩𝘪𝘮 𝘢 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦?” She still finds herself making excuses and only reluctantly gives him a chance if at all.

But compare that to a good-looking, attractive, hot guy who asks out a woman he barely knows, with no prior connection and not even part of her social circle. Her reaction is immediate attraction, a biological urge to say yes, as if it’s something she has always wanted.

Just goes on to show that social skills are so overrated in the context of dating and attraction