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AITA for wanting to keep my baby away from unvaccinated family members?

I’m currently pregnant and planning to follow the recommended vaccine schedule for my baby. One thing I’m especially anxious about is the gap before the measles (MMR) vaccine, since babies don’t get it until around 12 months.

Some of our extended family members are not vaccinated, including my husband’s sister’s elementary aged kids. My husband is planning to talk to his sister, and his instinct right now is that we should have no contact between our baby and them until our baby can be vaccinated.

We’re really not trying to hurt anyone’s feelings or create tension, but we also feel like just as they’ve made their own choices about what’s best for their kids, we should be able to do the same for ours and have that respected.

We’ve actually lightly brought this up with a couple family members already just to test the waters, and I walked away feeling pretty dismissed, like I was being overly dramatic for wanting to be cautious and pro vaccine. That’s part of what’s making me second guess myself.

I’m really worried about the fallout and how this might impact family dynamics long term. I don’t want to cause a huge divide, but at the same time I feel strongly about protecting our baby, especially with how contagious measles is.

So AITA for supporting this boundary?

Hi! I’m a FTM looking for some advice and how others have handled this.

I’m planning to follow the recommended vaccine schedule for my baby, but I’m especially anxious about the gap before the measles (MMR) vaccine. Since babies don’t get it until around 12 months, I’m worried about having them around extended family members who are unvaccinated or not up to date.

For those of you who are pro-vaccine, how did you handle this stage? Did you set boundaries with family, limit visits, ask for certain precautions, or just go with your comfort level?

My husband and I really don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or create tension, but we also feel like just as others have made their own choices about what’s best for their kids, we should be able to do the same for ours and have that respected.

My husband is planning to talk to his sister, whose elementary aged kids aren’t vaccinated, and his initial instinct is to have zero contact until our baby is able to be vaccinated. I’m just worried about the fallout and how this might affect family dynamics long term, but at the end of the day protecting our baby is the priority.

Would really appreciate hearing what others did and what felt right for your family 🤍

Hi! I'm a FTM looking for some advice and how others have handled this.

I'm planning to follow the recommended vaccine schedule for my baby, but I'm especially anxious about the gap before the measles (MMR) vaccine.

Since babies don't get it until around 12 months, I'm worried about having them around extended family members who are unvaccinated or not up to date.

For those of you who are pro-vaccine, how did you handle this stage? Did you set boundaries with family, limit visits, ask for certain precautions, or just go with your comfort level?

My husband and I really don't want to hurt anyone's feelings or create tension, but we also feel like just as others have made their own choices about what's best for their kids, we should be able to do the same for ours and have that respected.

My husband is planning to talk to his sister, whose elementary aged kids aren't vaccinated, and his initial instinct is to have zero contact until our baby is able to be vaccinated. I'm just worried about the fallout and how this might affect family dynamics long term, but at the end of the day protecting our baby is the priority.

Would really appreciate hearing what others did!