u/Financial-Struggle63

My girlfriend of a year and a half just cheated on me with some guy she met like a couple months ago and I’ve completely cut her out my life but we have mutual friends and they’ve been telling me she’s been talking crazy about me for an entire week and saying insane things and it just hurts me cause I did nothing to deserve this and I just want the instagram taken down but there’s nothing I can do cause it’s private

Me and her were best friends for almost 2 years before anything romantic ever happened. We spent damn near every day together — smoking, hanging out, going out to eat, and even taking trips with my family. She met most of my family and became a big part of my everyday life. I caught feelings for her during one of those trips but kept it to myself at first. Around the end of last year, she found out her boyfriend of 3 years had been cheating on her, and she was hurt for a long time. In February, I finally told her how I felt. A couple months later we got drunk with friends and ended up sleeping together. The next day she said she just wanted to stay friends, but things kept getting complicated after that. We kept sleeping together, going on dates, buying gifts, spending nights together, and even shared a bed the whole time on another family trip. Right after that trip, though, she told me she had gotten back in contact with her ex. Then her ex messaged me asking what happened between us, and after I answered honestly, she got mad at me and accused me of never really being her friend. Even after all that, we still kept reconnecting physically and emotionally.

As time went on, though, she slowly started pulling away. She told me sleeping together made her feel guilty because of the situation with her ex, so we stopped, but we still hung out almost every day. The problem was I still loved her hard, and it felt like she was becoming more distant little by little. She started saying she didn’t really like cuddling or always being around each other. I tried to give her space, especially when she went on a girls trip, but communication started feeling off. After she came back, she canceled plans in a weird way, and the next day she told me my calls gave her anxiety during an exam and that she didn’t want to talk right now. She basically said maybe we could be friends again in the future. I told her I understood, but I didn’t know if I could ever just be friends with someone I loved that deeply. It’s been about a week of no contact now, and when we saw each other in the elevator recently, neither of us said a word — it was just awkward silence and a look between us.

**TL;DR;**
Me and my best friend of almost 2 years ended up crossing the line after I caught feelings for her. We were insanely close — hanging out every day, smoking together, trips with my family, all that. I told her I liked her in February after she had just gone through getting cheated on by her boyfriend of 3 years. A couple months later we started sleeping together, going on dates, acting like a couple, but she kept saying she only wanted friendship and was still emotionally tied to her ex. Things got messy after her ex found out and contacted me, and even though we kept reconnecting after that, she slowly started pulling away while I kept falling harder. Eventually she told me she needed space and maybe we could be friends again in the future, but I admitted I don’t know if I can just be friends with someone I loved that deeply. Now we’re no contact and it’s awkward as hell because we literally live in the same apartment building.

So me and her have been were best friends for about a year and a half or 2 before anything happened we literally hung out almost everyday throughout that time we’re both potheads so ofc we smoked all the time together hung out, went out together, even took her to dinner a couple times as friends. I even took her on trips with my family we went on multiple trips and she’s met most of the family. I caught feeling for her on one trip but didn’t really tell her I just held it in thinking maybe I’ll get over it. Fast forward to maybe like late December she found out her boyfriend of 3 years had been cheating on her for a couple of months and she told us and she was hurt for a couple of months, we get to April of this year I told her I had feelings for her and that’s that and we didn’t really speak on it at that time at all. 2 weeks later we had a group night with some friends we both got drunk and we did the do. She was forward with everything and it caught me off guard but the next day she pulled pack basically saying she just wants to keep it friends and we maybe will sleep together when she feels like it but I felt like my emotions were to in it for that so I asked for space and it was fine for like 3 days then she came back and we slept together again then it was friendly because we had a trip coming up. In between that time we last did it and the trip I took her out to dinners bought her a lulu set for her birthday no one celebrated with her and flowers all types of shii. Anyways when we get to the trip it’s my family and a few of my friends were sleeping together the whole trip literally and metaphorically. It was a great time I didn’t really have any complaints but when we got back not even a day later she texted me saying she was back in contact with her ex and I’m not tender so I was like cool u figure that out and it is what it is but the next day her ex texted me on ig basically asking what happened between us and wanting to know like everything I told her some parts cause he wanted to know if we had sex so I kept it real but that was it, she then blew my phone up basically saying how I was never her friend and everything was conditional. We were no contact for about 4 days before I came back and we slept together again lol. I truly do love this girl but I know she doesn’t have the same love for me because she told me I like her too much and that I need to give her space to like her and so were we in a situationship I guess for like a month or maybe a couple weeks, we had a talk where she basically said we gotta stop sleeping together because it makes her feel guilty about the situation with her ex and I said that’s fine and so we went on, we still hung out everyday but it’s like she was slowly pulling away she told me she doesn’t like cuddling that much, or laying up and doesn’t like being around each other all the time. I really tried to back off as much as I can but my feelings are still strong and what they are, so about 3 weeks ago she went on a trip with her homegirls and I let her have her space and peace barely called even though she only answered once and barely texted, before she left i asked if she wanna spend the night and she said she was tired, so after she came back I asked her if she can come over that night and watch Malcom in the Mid because we’re binging that she said yes. I texted her to come over at 9 she said ok maybe an hour goes by which isn’t normal usually like 30 so I call like 3 times no answer, so I go downstairs (forgot to add she lives a floor below me, we both met at a different apartment we lived at and she moved with me to my next apartment so she can be closer to me I guess) I knocked on her door and her roommate answered and she said she was sleep, she called me back after her roommate woke her up I guess and said she’s going to sleep. The next day she had an exam and I said call me when u get out it was at 10am I heard nothing back for 2 and a half hours so I called at 12:30 she texted me saying I scared her and caused her anxiety with her taking the test and that it lasted 2 hours so I’m like wtf ok, an hour later she text me basically saying how doesn’t wanna talk rn and she’s got a lot going on and we can be friends in the future and I said back basically I understand and idk if I could ever be friends with how hard I loved her and that I still care about her and wish her the best with everything. We haven’t talked in a week and I seen her on the elevator today and not a single word said just a look an awkward one at that.