u/Final_Wallaby9425

I've lived in Texas my whole life and due to safety concerns(I'm trans) and ultimately wanting to leave my home town, my family and I have decided to move to Oregon in a few years. I'm really excited about it but am so anxious and my nerves are really going. One is that I'm really pushing myself to save up and I don't want to doubt myself, but I'm scared I won't be able to do it logistically speaking. I question will I be able to get a job, will I be able to rent a house, etc. Another factor is that though I am taking the necessary steps away from my parents, I am feeling guilty about it. I haven't told them we're moving yet but I know they won't handle it well. We are planning to tell them in a year. I could use some words of encouragement and advice if y'all don't mind.

I've lived in Texas my whole life and I'm in my 30s currently. Due to safety concerns with the political climate and wanting to get out of my home town, my family and I are deciding to move to Oregon in a few years. I am excited but honestly so anxious at the same time. A Thought come to my mind of will I be able to do this(logistically speaking)? I am also taking a necessary step away from my parents but am feeling guilty about it. They don't know that we're moving yet. I could use some words of advice/encouragement if y'all don't mind. I hope y'all are having a great day.

My sister wanted to come into town and I haven't seen her in about four years. Her and my parents have had beef in the past and she wanted to try to mend things. My parents admittedly have some toxic traits and my sister texted them and laid boundaries being that racism and transphobia will not be accepted and that she also wanted the keys to the gun safe put away. My brother lives with my parents and has had some violent tendencies in the past. He seems to have grown but my sister wanted to feel safe. My parents did not handle it well and went into denial about everything claiming that's not who they are as people. Though my dad doesn't think he is(you know, because he has black friends🙄), he's made so many racist comments in the past and currently and I am trans and he won't accept that part of me. He said they may not ever talk again and they wouldn't accept her terms and she called off the trip. With everything going on politically against trans people, I need my family and I feel like I can't give up on them and have tried so hard to make it work but this honestly broke me and my heart hurts. I wanted so badly for my family to be together again but it's not going to happen. My dad also told me that he's not ever going to change so he's not ever going to accept that I'm trans. I thought about making plans to move today. I stayed in my home town for them, and I need to put myself first now. I just feel devastated at the moment.