u/FiercePoppy

(30F) new to the apps. I was messaging a guy the other day and we talked about just our jobs and what we were doing for the day. He messaged me the following day asking how my day was, I responded, but I haven’t heard back from him in two days. Not sure if he’s just bored of the conversation and not interested anymore or if maybe he’s just busy because it’s the weekend.

I’m not really into the messaging, and almost just want to cut to the chase and ask if he wants to hang out. But would that be weird since he hasn’t responded? I’m not really looking for anything serious. Just trying to see what’s out there and have fun.

It’s been about a year since my divorce. I’m 32, no kids and kind of want to start putting myself out there again and date. The main thing that’s holding me back is my debt from my marriage and the last few years. I have about 25k.

I feel bad bringing that into a new relationship and I also don’t really know how to address it with a potential partner when the time comes. I’m very strict with my money now and don’t really have extra for dates and stuff, so I think that’s been holding me back as well from dating because I don’t want the guy paying for everything, especially in the beginning. I don’t know if this is stupid, like should I not be this worried about this? I’ve never had “baggage” like this before when dating. Obviously my future partner wouldn’t be obligated to pay any of this debt and I would let him know that, but it’s just embarrassing to bring up.