u/FeeOrdinary8907

Roald Dahl once said, "And above all, watch with glittering eyes the whole world around you because the greatest secrets are always hidden in the most unlikely places. Those who don't believe in magic will never find it." So I guess this is my invitation to the universe to send magic into my life.

Okay so this is kind of awkward, but I will try my best.

About Me:

I am 19F (although I am not super feminine, I don’t really wear makeup or a lot of dresses or anything) from the West Coast of the United States. I am in my third year of college studying business. I love animals: I want dogs someday and am allergic to cats. I currently have aquariums. I am vegan(ish), but my partner doesn't have to be. (Note that if you are, I’m not super strict so might not match up there.) I love cooking and baking though. I love plants and want a garden someday. I have autism, high anxiety, and suspected ADHD. I have houseplants right now, but it is 50/50 whether I kill them due to forgetfulness.

I want to travel the world someday. I love watching TV, reading, and playing board games. I am mostly a homebody, but do enjoy going out to museums, farmer's markets, festivals, and other fun places. I was raised Christian, but am somewhere between agnostic and atheist now. I love names, and words, and poetry. I can be very serious and very silly; you basically never get the middle path with me.

I am definitely a hopeless romantic but I prefer the more optimistic hopeful romantic = )

Relationship:

I am still trying to figure out what label(s) I identify with. The best I can do is asexual in attraction but demisexual in desire. Basically, I don’t mind sex eventually, but I don't want something built around it. I also am not very comfortable with p*rn use.

I lean towards no kids but have also highly considered fostering or adopting. I don’t want biological kids (could theoretically change but I don’t think so).

I basically just want a best friend to fall in love with the world with. To go dancing in the rain with, to make daisy chains with, to discuss crazy hypotheticals with, to make blanket forts with, to go stargazing with. I can be kind of clingy and nosy, but I don't think it's super bad. I loooove cuddling and physical touch, but am not super sure on kissing. When I fall, I fall hard and fast. I like nicknames used so frequently we forget each other’s real names, conversations that last all night until we’re exchanging good morning texts, and small heartfelt gestures.

I just want someone I can prioritize and who will prioritize me. Someone who wants go take care of me because I will take care of them. Someone who will put in effort and initiate things and be a little bit leading. Someone who can be steady when my mind is spiraling. Someone who doesn’t mind me wanting to be a little silly and cute. Someone who honestly wants to be in a relationship with me.

If you’ve been told you have an old soul, that you’re the parent/therapist of the group, great at taking care of others, emotionally mature, etc. I will probably like your vibe.

I know this can sound like I’m [Waiting For Superman](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pbT3uvOl3Dk) (great song), but I will take care of my person and I want someone I can trust to take care of me too.

About You (Build-a-Boyfriend Time!):

Requirements:

Not creepy * 19-23 * Not into p*rn * Not looking to rush sex * Decisively and significantly left-wing when it comes to politics (not right/centrist) * Into conservation and helping the earth * Good communicator * Loves animals * Doesn’t want bio kids * Willing to put in some effort and initiate conversations and such * Is doing something in life (college/work/etc.) * Values education and learning * Has some plans for the future * Is a kind/decent/open/loving person * Understanding about my neurodivergence * Not into hunting/fishing (you don't have to be vegan but that's too much for me) * Doesn't smoke/vape/do drugs (occasional light drinking is fine) * Capable of taking care of yourself (chores, hygiene, etc.) * Not going to randomly ghost * Passionate about something in life * Caretaking qualities * Open-minded * Monogamous * Doesn’t text while driving

Bonuses (Not Required):

Vegan/Vegetarian * Loves plants and gardening * Multilingual * Plays musical instruments * Writes poetry * Likes cooking * Likes cleaning (a girl can dream) * Willing to relocate the spiders to outside * Not religious * Texts using capitalization and punctuation * Optimistic but also realistic about the world

I really like people who are smart in areas such as math, science, computers, tech, DIY projects, etc. But you don't have to be; I'll happily listen to any passion of yours.

Random Notes:

* I don't care about looks too much, just take decent care of yourself. My preference is for someone who doesn't care much about looks as well, but I know that's not how a lot of people work.

* I don't really care what masculinity means to you, or if you're trans or non-binary.

* I want someone who is romantic and willing to have deep discussions and likes doing little things to show that they are thinking of me.

* I'm not really into gaming or anime. I don't care if you are, but if that's something you want, it won't work.

* I am totally open to long distance (would probably prefer it to start). I would be willing to move to another country as long as I don't have to learn another language (I have tried and failed in that regard). Also highly considering not staying in the US regardless due to the aforementioned not-working government.

* I am open to a range of (dis)abilities. Just please, please disclose them in the beginning.

* I don't really have much social media. I would prefer Discord for talking.

If you made it all the way to the end, I already kind of like you. And this length is pretty normal for me lol. I know this isn't what a lot of people want and that's fine, I just need to find the one person who does. If this isn't right for you, I hope you have a wonderful life. But if it is, maybe your wonderful life includes me...

Alright universe, do your thing!

P.S. If this hasn’t scared everyone off/bored everyone to tears and someone is still considering messaging me, then I feel free to write me a novel. Tell me everything. Who you are, what you want in a partner, how you see yourself in a relationship, what you liked about my post, etc. Also I’d love it if you included a song or two that resonates with what you’re looking for. It took me about a half hour to narrow down my 107 song romance playlist, but I think I’ve settled on: [Soul Mate by Flora Cash](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mff4lJqjmw0), [Your Nonsense Makes Sense by The 502s](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kc0dFeUr0Xw), and [That Part by Lauren Spencer Smith](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xWIFJgoitzA) (love the video).