i (19f) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (19m) for the past 5 months. we’ve had our normal disagreements, but we had one truly significant rough patch early march. i don’t want to say too much about it, but it was in regards to events in his past and it honestly made me question his character, intentions, and challenged my trust in him.
the thing is, i thought we moved past it, we’ve had countless of conversations working it through and i don’t even think abt what happened back in march anymore. but i realized that ive become just become more and more insecure the longer we’ve been dating.
i feel like before entering our relationship and early on into it, i had a very secure mindset and attachment style. i was fine being on my own, trusted my bf wholeheartedly, and felt more stable, secure with myself and him, and happy overall.
i dont want to blame it on that one event back in march. maybe i just felt insecure already and that rough patch js made it come to light, but again its hard for me to accept that bc i know how i felt and my mindset before entering the relationship.
im not sure where to go from here. i know it gets exhausting for my partner to constantly ask to be reassured and to have many emotional conversations. i just feel really bad knowing i went from being a secure partner for him to just an insecure and anxious one.
how can i become more secure again and less anxious? i felt like i didn’t need reassurance before everything happened- and now i feel like i need it a lot.