my partner and I are gonna move out, but now we live with my parents.
my partner hates my mother secretly. she is too bossy, and since he lives for free at home, she traits him as a maid. I tried to talk to her. my partner doesn't dare.
anyway, we purchased a house, and my partner is going there too much in his free time in order to speed up our departure.
he is cleaning there. He told me I should go too and I answered we could go together at the weekend. I don't feel like going there after working during the week.
today, my mother told him to make breakfast and told me to go with her since my father has Alzheimer and she needed emotional support in order to disable my dad.
then my partner got mad and told me (not her) that he was tired of being the maid, that if I had a free day, I had to clean up (he has to work). I told him angrily that we were meant to go together on Monday.
I hate these changes of plans, and he knows. it is part of asd problems I have: the change of plans without a serious reason. I wanted to go with my mother to our familiar issue and I would study or end some online work later.
Instead, I left my mother and went to the house to clean on my own. The WORST PART was what happened in the communal GARAGE. Our parking place is so narrow, so I ended up SCRATCHING the car...
I called my partner full of angst, and he calmed me down. told me to buy some paint for the car so that my mother doesn't notice it...
I am grateful to him and don't want to break up. I do not blame him for what happened to the car, but he knows I get so much nervous when I am forced to do something I wasn't warned off.
it is true I am not good at cleaning, but it doesn't mean I want to skip my duties. it is just that he wants us to go, even apart, seven days a week, and I'm not in favour of that.