Salaam alaykum Warahmatullah all, hope everyone is well. Need some advice on this. I'm 26 (27 next month) male from and born in the UK and unmarried.
My mum recently said she wants me to get married from someone from Pakistan. Who she believes is a good match. However I believe its mainly for her benefit as she also said - the girl can help me with household chores (well she didnt say this explicitly but her friend who was there at the time said it and people have been saying this to her). My mum also said she's not getting any younger. She mentioned that which is probably one of the main factors in this is that it'll help them (the girls family) as they are from a poor background. So her getting married and coming to the UK would help them out.
About the girl - she's 21, I've met her in Pakistan in 2010/11 so a long time ago when she was very young. And I've seen one recent picture of her. Educated according to my mum (biased) and works at a local school which is quite commendable as its hard to get jobs in Pakistan. She can cook and is on deen with her prayers. However from the picture I saw doesnt actively wear Hijab which is concerning for me. If she can't wear Hijab in a Muslim country then surely it's going to be a lot harder in a non Muslim country and she will be less inclined to wear it here.
About me - I have a few health issues which my mum has mentioned some people won't be accepting of that but there's no disability or inability to have children. I am practicing and pray and do all the basics including nawafil. As well as dhikr. I've never drank, done drugs, don't gamble, don't have female friends or talk to females.
I am university educated with a Bachelors in accounting and finance and work a temporary job at the moment.
Searching for myself -
As mentioned i dont talk to women and have only been actively searching for a few months. Ive had 2 serious talking stages none of which got to meet them or anything further.
I have tried and am on the marriage apps with no luck so far at all.
My concerns -
My preference has and always will be to get married to someone from the UK
It seems that the main benefits to me getting married to this girl is for my mum anf the girls family
Language barrier - I dont speak the language very well and I'm told she can speak English but its not going to be very well.
I'm afraid that I won't be the best husband for this person as I'd only be getting married as its a Sunnah and to have children, and to please my mother.
We have nothing in common and it's going to be a struggle to communicate and develop a meaningful relationship.
I don't earn a lot of money and my role is currently temporary so the logistics of bringing her to the country won't be easy either.
So is there any advice that you all have, has or is anyone in a similar position? Have you married from back home how was it? What do you advise based on my situation.
JazakAllah for reading
EDIT -
I have already said no and explained to my mum that I would like to marry someone from the UK. That was very clear and I said this from the start.