u/FantasticPup

"Failure to Launch where young adults struggle to achieve developmental milestones like moving out, finding employment, or completing education, often remaining dependent on parents well into their twenties or thirties".

I was diagnosed with SM when I was a kid and struggled with it until I was about 14 and I'm 23 now. I was never good with academics and struggled with it greatly so I'm not keen on going to college. Don't like school. I worked a job shortly after graduating high school but only worked there for a year because they gave me short hours and haven't worked a job ever since.

I have friends but never had a relationship. I'm not very fond of life. Idk how to move forward in life. I don’t really have any goals. No career prospects or anything. I just wish I was never born. All I know is struggle. I also struggled with Social Anxiety even though I wasn't diagnosed with it for some reason and heavily believe that I'm autistic also.

I'm not saying this to be all "woe is me" or promote some victim mentality. Genuinely, just don’t lament about never having a GF before, struggling with getting dates, etc online. Dating woes in general. Just don’t. It's not worth it because people are assholes towards this kind of topic for no reason and you're rarely are gonna get the validation you're looking for anyways.

You’re just gonna end up feeling more like shit. Only talk to friends, therapist, family, anyone who you think aren't gonna be dismissive and will give you some comfort. Cause you're not gonna get that online.

I stopped complaining for months now and I've never felt more better. And I'm talking about guys who say nothing wrong in their venting before anyone wants to go like "Well, don't say anything negative about women and that won't happen!" Nope. I've seen plenty of guys say nothing negative about women or how the world is at fault for their failures or whatever else and still get shit on for no good reason.

The last straw for me is when I was feeling particularly sad one day and made a vent post. Rather short, just a basic "it sucks that I've never had a relationship". Nothing about women, didn't even use the word woman. Said nothing about them. First comment I get was some unhinged rant about how I'm being entitled, how I deserve to be alone, etc. You know the usual spiel.

I was so upset that I just deleted the post immediately after reading that comment. And I was especially upset with this one because I purposefully worded the post to be as inoffensive as possible by saying very little, not even mentioning women like I said earlier because I really tired of people being mean for no reason at that point.

After that I was just completely done. The internet won that day. They got one more guy to stfu about something that's perfectly fine to complain about so good job. Ironic because I'm kinda doing the same thing here but it's for good reason. Just don't say anything. Get a journal or something. Just anything but voice these kinds of thoughts online.