u/Fantastic-Astronaut9

Well, he is flying in to visit me tomorrow. We have known each other for approx fifteen years. Sure, we made out in the somewhat buttoned up early twenties, but we always remained friends.

I cut him out for a few years, more about the asshole my husband is, and I (subconsciously) didn't want the reality of it. That and he had his own life situations. We reconnected in the depth of my misery re recognizing how horrible things were (yes, always a winner). He's been insanely supportive, so...

My question is, he is flying in to see me, and it's not entirely strange seeing as we are old friends, but he has also put together this epic itinerary for over two days...

Okay, I'm not saying he has "illicit" thoughts in mind, but let's say there are, and I wouldn't mind...is it a bad idea? I know it is. I should know better but...I kind of love the weekend he has planned out. But he's "just a friend"

(Short version: I really shouldn't go beyond what is decent in company, right?)

Hi all,

I haven't posted in a while, but wanted to update (for anyone who recalls my initial posts). Since we last "spoke," I have gathered everything I need to proceed with filing. I also managed to temporarily move away with my child under the guise of a lie. My lawyer is wonderful, and it's now a waiting game. I wanted to ensure that I am not under his mercy.

Naturally, he's been a "model husband" the last two months but I use it to my advantage by feeding into it. Distance makes it easier. I only do this because I have no interest in instigating his cornered animal behavior & affecting my child. I see him as a broken machine and there is no use negotiating with one. To date, he has no idea I'm divorcing him and basically using this time to mentally/ financially solidify myself + my child is in therapy & surrounded by love.

I regret many things about how I handled my meltdowns throughout this process and I regret some I let into my life but I can full heartedly say, I like who I am today and while I wish I didn't have to learn the magnitude of my strength through this, better now than never.

It has been very hard and it has been lonely at times but it's also been so freeing. My life feels fuller, and I can geniunely say I am looking forward to what is next. It's weird to step outside and feel the fullness of living minus the mental chains I knew.

I will keep posting here as I know it may get ugly once I file, but I have enough protective measures in place to hopefully help.

And of course, since it's me, I may have some shady side practices that I can leverage, like say...evidence begotten via "unsanitary" measures (!) that could be ruinous... But with that said... I would never use it unless he decides to get dirty.

My aim: fair settlement & a decent co-existing relationship, seeing as we have a child that never asked for this.

Anyway, let us see.

Sending love 💙