u/Famous_Slice_7371

I am a 17-year-old female. My parents have been my worst nightmare throughout my life.

So here is some backstory.

My father was a wrestler and then became a financier. He rose from poverty to the upper middle class on his own.

My mother was married off to my father when she was 18. She had me when she was 19. She got a government job 5 years ago.

My brother was born in 2011. He is the cutest, loveliest I know. We share a healthy relationship.

I was a very bright kid. I always stood in the top 3 of my classes. I was gifted with extraordinarily profound English. Teachers favoured me because my father lent money to the founder of the school. Since the beginning, my brother and I used to go to top-notch schools in our area.

My List of TRAUMAS

1. Our father forced my brother and me to run at least 4km and do other exercises when we were like 6 and 8. We were both not against physical activities, but he was very serious and aggressive about it. He used to hit us with sticks and legs when we did not run fast enough. No recovery period or holidays. We were forced into all of this every day for 3 hours after school. When I was 9, and my brother was 7, we came back from a trip. We were exhausted and thought that we could rest, but he still took us to the stadium. When he saw that we were not running fast enough, he took a stick and started beating us as if we did some horrible crime. Till this day, he boasts about the incident.
2. Our parents warned us that if we made any friends or even talked to someone unnecessarily, then we were to be punished. They even told us that teachers don't want our good, so we should only listen to them. Also, we should not talk to teachers about anything private. Only parents are the one whome you should tell everything. Even if they found out that I had brought a classmate's phone number to get some work, she would be monitoring every single word of the call.
3. I was very good at music. When I was in 5th grade, I was selected for the School's Music Club. My Music teacher was so sweet. He also started teaching me the harmonium. When my Mom got to know about this, she immediately called my teacher and told him not to take my music lessons as they had nothing to do with my future/ academics.
4. After I started going to school, my parents stopped making me wear any type of girly clothes like tops, skirts, etc. I wasn't even allowed to wear jeans. I was only allowed to wear pants, lowers, shorts and t-shirts from sports brands like Nike, Adidas, etc. Even in weddings, he would make us wear that. Even in school, they forced me to wear boys' clothes instead of girls'.
5. We were never allowed to socialise with kids in the neighbourhood or even our own cousins. Only 2-3 children were there who used to occasionally come to our house because their parents were friends with our parents.
6. My parents always controlled my hair length. Even though I was a girl, they used to get me a buzzcut. Even now, they force me to do it whenever the length of my hair crosses my ears. They would particularly get my hair cut when we had to go out on vacation or something. You cannot even imagine how bad and depressing it feels as a girl to never have long hair in your lifetime. The anxiety I experienced when I used to go to school after the haircut never became less traumatic. And when I say buzzcut, I mean it. They would say that she does sports, so it helps her with the heat and sweat. But for me, it was nothing like that. I was terribly shaken every time they did it to me.
7. They used to beat my brother and me and called it "dosage", which children need to stay in control.
8. We were not allowed to participate in most of the extracurricular activities after 4th standard. They even took me out of the annual function dance event the previous day, for which I had practised for weeks.
9. They used to overfeed us. They never wanted their children to look good. They just wanted their children to look healthy (fat) and build up. They had no concept of self-confidence for children
10. I scored a 100 in my Social Studies in the 10th Boards examination. I was very eager to pursue Archeology as my profession. But they already got my admission into a medical coaching institution so that I can study to get into medical college. A doctor has never been my dream. I argued, but they just told me that I live in this house and stay alive with their money. So Study. I was not good at science, but still I tried to make being a doctor my dream. Bout I could not. Then I failed the exam and decided to take a drop. Then the exam got cancelled and is happening again in a few days. Now they are telling me how I am lazy, and I should sacrifice my sleep and study all day and night.

These were just the broadest categories of trauma they gave me.

Recently, in a casual tone, I mentioned to my Father that I will wear whatever clothes I want and keep long hair when I become independent. It's been 7 days, and they still have not talked to me with a happy or normal face.

I will do everything to protect my brother. I will get out of this house soon by getting into medical college

Who was wrong????????

I am a 17-year-old female. My parents have been my worst nightmare throughout my life.

So here is some backstory.

My father was a wrestler and then became a financier. He rose from poverty to the upper middle class on his own.

My mother was married off to my father when she was 18. She had me when she was 19. She got a government job 5 years ago.

My brother was born in 2011. He is the cutest, loveliest I know. We share a healthy relationship.

I was a very bright kid. I always stood in the top 3 of my classes. I was gifted with extraordinarily profound English. Teachers favoured me because my father lent money to the founder of the school. Since the beginning, my brother and I used to go to top-notch schools in our area.

My List of TRAUMAS

1. Our father forced my brother and me to run at least 4km and do other exercises when we were like 6 and 8. We were both not against physical activities, but he was very serious and aggressive about it. He used to hit us with sticks and legs when we did not run fast enough. No recovery period or holidays. We were forced into all of this every day for 3 hours after school. When I was 9, and my brother was 7, we came back from a trip. We were exhausted and thought that we could rest, but he still took us to the stadium. When he saw that we were not running fast enough, he took a stick and started beating us as if we did some horrible crime. Till this day, he boasts about the incident.
2. Our parents warned us that if we made any friends or even talked to someone unnecessarily, then we were to be punished. They even told us that teachers don't want our good, so we should only listen to them. Also, we should not talk to teachers about anything private. Only parents are the one whome you should tell everything. Even if they found out that I had brought a classmate's phone number to get some work, she would be monitoring every single word of the call.
3. I was very good at music. When I was in 5th grade, I was selected for the School's Music Club. My Music teacher was so sweet. He also started teaching me the harmonium. When my Mom got to know about this, she immediately called my teacher and told him not to take my music lessons as they had nothing to do with my future/ academics.
4. After I started going to school, my parents stopped making me wear any type of girly clothes like tops, skirts, etc. I wasn't even allowed to wear jeans. I was only allowed to wear pants, lowers, shorts and t-shirts from sports brands like Nike, Adidas, etc. Even in weddings, he would make us wear that. Even in school, they forced me to wear boys' clothes instead of girls'.
5. We were never allowed to socialise with kids in the neighbourhood or even our own cousins. Only 2-3 children were there who used to occasionally come to our house because their parents were friends with our parents.
6. My parents always controlled my hair length. Even though I was a girl, they used to get me a buzzcut. Even now, they force me to do it whenever the length of my hair crosses my ears. They would particularly get my hair cut when we had to go out on vacation or something. You cannot even imagine how bad and depressing it feels as a girl to never have long hair in your lifetime. The anxiety I experienced when I used to go to school after the haircut never became less traumatic. And when I say buzzcut, I mean it. They would say that she does sports, so it helps her with the heat and sweat. But for me, it was nothing like that. I was terribly shaken every time they did it to me.
7. They used to beat my brother and me and called it "dosage", which children need to stay in control.
8. We were not allowed to participate in most of the extracurricular activities after 4th standard. They even took me out of the annual function dance event the previous day, for which I had practised for weeks.
9. They used to overfeed us. They never wanted their children to look good. They just wanted their children to look healthy (fat) and build up. They had no concept of self-confidence for children
10. I scored a 100 in my Social Studies in the 10th Boards examination. I was very eager to pursue Archeology as my profession. But they already got my admission into a medical coaching institution so that I can study to get into medical college. A doctor has never been my dream. I argued, but they just told me that I live in this house and stay alive with their money. So Study. I was not good at science, but still I tried to make being a doctor my dream. Bout I could not. Then I failed the exam and decided to take a drop. Then the exam got cancelled and is happening again in a few days. Now they are telling me how I am lazy, and I should sacrifice my sleep and study all day and night.

These were just the broadest categories of trauma they gave me.

Recently, in a casual tone, I mentioned to my Father that I will wear whatever clothes I want and keep long hair when I become independent. It's been 7 days, and they still have not talked to me with a happy or normal face.

I will do everything to protect my brother. I will get out of this house soon by getting into medical college