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Image 1 — I know i’m not owed a relationship but goddamn, after losing a ton of weight, gaining a lot of muscle and becoming more sociable, I at least expected to kiss someone by now. Asian buffet with my dad.
Image 2 — I know i’m not owed a relationship but goddamn, after losing a ton of weight, gaining a lot of muscle and becoming more sociable, I at least expected to kiss someone by now. Asian buffet with my dad.
Image 3 — I know i’m not owed a relationship but goddamn, after losing a ton of weight, gaining a lot of muscle and becoming more sociable, I at least expected to kiss someone by now. Asian buffet with my dad.
▲ 394 r/kitchencels

I know i’m not owed a relationship but goddamn, after losing a ton of weight, gaining a lot of muscle and becoming more sociable, I at least expected to kiss someone by now. Asian buffet with my dad.

Like yea i’m still a lil nerdy but I thought ppl liked that. Im progressive, Im kind, Im altruistic, I have a nice body. The only thing that’s really holding me back is that Im 5’6”, but surely it can’t be that big of a deal. Did I just get unlucky? Did god simply look upon me and proclaim “no, he will not feel the loving embrace of another human”?

u/Falasti — 1 day ago
▲ 20 r/altfashionadvice

How can i change my hair/face to look more alt?

I have to buzz my hair so it doesn’t all fall out, is there a way i could style my hair to make it look more alt? I also do want piercings eventually but I have to wait another 2 years until i can move out of my religious parent’s house.

u/Falasti — 6 days ago
▲ 8 r/AmItheAsshole

Context: I met all of these people roughly 2-3 years ago through a discord server of a youtuber, but for the most part it's treated like a normal hangout server. We've been good friends for a while but I'm especially good friends with a girl I'll call Jan. Jan is an on-and-off user of discord but I mainly text her through iMessage and Instagram so it's never really affected me. I am far closer with Jan than with anyone else in the central friend group and we DM each other almost every day.

Conflict: Recently, Jan rejoined the server after an absence of about 3 months. I noticed that she wasn't talking very much and that a few people were being passive aggressive towards her, and when I asked about it, she said that many of them had her blocked and didn't like her. In particular, she said that one of them had a superiority complex over her and was incredibly cruel. I've had a slightly similar conflict with the same person so I told her that she should "be and asshole back" to them. I knew nothing of what had actually gone down between any of them and admittedly, I didn't care to educate myself. Time and time again, I would vocally defend her when people started to be mean to her, even joining conversations with only that purpose in mind.

I believe me encouraging her to reciprocate their cruelty led to an argument she had with one of them today. In it, she called one of them autistic and reiterated multiple times that she meant it as an ableist insult. In general she was being incredibly mean and unfeeling in a way similar that I told her to, all over a fairly calm cultural debate. She would leave the server and once I read the chat logs and spoke to my friends about what had happened, I realized that she had been much meaner than she initially led on. I will not get into details about what exactly she did, but just know that it's something that should not be defended. I have apologized to my friends for defending her and they said that they forgive me, but I fully understand if they still harbor some ill will towards me.

Question: Am I the asshole for looking at the situation so uncritically and blindly following what Jan told me about my friends and emboldening her to have such an unjustified outburst?

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u/Falasti — 8 days ago