u/Fabulousblonde876

So two days ago I posted about a guy who decided he felt bad for what he did. And how I explained that I must attract men like this even when I have a guard up to make sure that I don't make the same mistake over and over. Well of course, when you post something on here you get messages from men looking for an affair partner and he was close.

My point is there's a guy who was about an hour away from me messaged me 3 days ago telling me all about these insecurities, he had and the same thing was happening to him. So we had a connection and had things to talk about regarding that. And how our spouses treated us. All the things you think you would have in common with someone to progress into something long term.

Well, over the weekend, we chatted back and forth.And yes, we both have lives so, we told each other it's the weekend... that messages would be a little bit less frequent. Yesterday I don't know what he said or did, but I had this feeling that there was going to be a long message today saying he changed his mind or he made a mistake. Now I haven't even met him yet. He had already sent me intimate pictures and videos of himself. Which if you feel like you're connected with somebody, sometimes, that's okay.

Fast forward to this morning. I see him typing, and it's a long message.I can tell. And it says, my wife and I got into a huge fight last night she asked me if I was talking to anybody online or if I was seeing anyone. We discussed separating and that we were both not in this marriage anymore. So i may be off of here for a while.

Then, tells me I'm embarrassed of all the things i sent you and said to you. There's another one who 1 minute says one thing. And within an hour, half an hour or very limited time, things change. And I know everyone has the right to change their mind. And I will give him the fact that he did message me instead of ghosting.

But wow, isn't it hard to find that needle in haystack in this life who is somewhat close to you?And serious about

So i'm not sure if it's me. And I am generally drawn to men who do this to me all of the time. I'm not new to this lifestyle.It's been seven years for me. I've been with my husband since we were teenagers and we aren't the same people anymore and somehow something just got lost along the way. No amount of talking is going to change anything in this relationship I've tried. And without judgment, please, I can't leave him because financially, it's not feasible anymore I don't know anybody that could leave in this economy.

Well, recently, in the last four months, I have been off and on here i'm looking for an AP. the amount of times i've been ghosted is ridiculous even before I meet them. But the men who you actually meet, and you end up sleeping with to turn around and say to you, I shouldn't have done that.

And now I understand people can have regrets. But i'm confused when they text you consistently, even after you've had sex and tell you they want to see you again. And then within a half an hour, they regret what they did. I don't know if they're just crazy or what? But this has happened to me more than once. Most of the guys don't even tell you, you just wake up one day and you realize you've been blocked.

Sometimes it makes me feel like all I am is a good fuck to them. And well sometimes that may be considered a compliment. But most times I don't feel like that's what it is. Now if a guy says to me, from the very start, I only want this to be one time. And that's it I would have no issue saying that's not what i'm looking for. But to lead me on into thinking that this was going to be something long-term. And then it isn't. I feel like there's something wrong with me.

I leave here and and delete my account, but something keeps bringing me back to here.

In the last four days I have started conversations with men where you think it's going well and you send pictures back-and-forth . And the conversation is great, and you have so much in common. Then, all of a sudden you wake up the next day and you're blocked on here or whatever chat you decided to move to. Without a message without a goodbye without a this isn't going how i thought it was going to go. I'm not really interested in you. Some kind of message. After being ghosted twice by the same guy, you think I would be a better judge at men who do it. I feel like I attract men who do this to me all of the time. But it seems like it's always the ones who say they're not going to do it, who turn around and do it to you. I don't understand how you can't be a grown adult about it .And just send a message. Yes, I would be shocked because the conversation was going so well. But again, I would have to respect you at least you told me instead of just disappearing. What is wrong with men?? Or I should just say society in general nowadays. How hard is it to just say goodbye. It blows my mind. Maybe i'm just too kind. Maybe I just take things to heart. All I know is this is mentally exhausting when it happens to you constantly. I think i've talked to at least three men this weekend. And now they're all gone without a word. I don't even know what to think anymore so I would like to add more to my post. Because some things have happened in the last few days that just blow my mind. I'm torn on what I should do.

The last two days I have been ghosted by two men. Which is fine and all people can change their minds.But it would be nice to have a text saying that. I was chatting with a guy we had plans to meet today. Well, last night, my dog was up barking, and I didn't sleep.Then, I started feeling sick because I didn't sleep very well. So I got up really early and messaged him before he woke up.

Now to set the context He was an hour away, and I would have to drive there to see him. I said I'm not feeling well. I thought I should tell you early, so you didn't count on me coming. I'm going back to sleep. I'm really sorry. Let's do this another time . And if not, maybe, this isn't gonna work out. He left me on read for a little bit.

Then sends back a message saying i've been in past relationships before I value when people are honest with me and do what they say they're going to do. I said i'm not feeling well and I haven't had sleep and it wouldn't be fair if I come to see you in case I give you something. Plus i'm not at my best to be seeing you the first time like this.

And so now I can't go back to sleep and i'm not feeling well. I blocked him on here. I usually do that anyway, when we switch to a different way too communicate. Now, i'm wondering if I should block him on snapchat. It's really not technically ghosting, because I did tell him. Things happen and people can't meet with you and you have to respect that. I'm just blown away by some men nowadays.