I haven't dated around much and I struggle with some anxiety so would appreciate some insight into this! | 24F was texting with a guy 29M very frequently almost all day for about two weeks. Our conversations were easy and very flirty. We went on a first date and it went really well, but at the end of the night we indulged in some sexual activities and there was some moments of awkwardness. I'm trying to blame it on the fact that it was both our first time after a long term relationship, though I was far more awkward than he. Overall it was a nice time, though I was certain I'd blown it.
Well, that was a week ago, and after the date he was still texting me pretty consistently, even double or triple texting, sending me long paragraphs about his work, etc. However absolutely no flirting like before or any suggestive comments. I did make a subtle comment implying l'm kinda worried and he immediately apologized for acting off, explained how he's having a stressful time and assured it has nothing to do with me. I said no worries and figured things would normalize soon
We texted a bit Saturday morning (2 days ago) and then he stopped replying, I didn’t follow up and didn’t hear from him until this morning with a pretty long apology and valid explanation. Again I said no worries. But then since then he hasn't made any effort to initiate conversation and still the flirtiness from before is gone.
I know not talking everyday is fine for a talking stage, but the fact that we used to talk and flirt so easily before the first date and now we don't is making me uneasy and upset. I can't tell if he just feels guilty and is trying to slow ghost me or if it really is just bad timing / stress. It's been 8 days total since the date, do I give it more time and just see how things go? Or is he clearly uninterested and I'm being led on?
more context: topic of a second date hasnt come up yet, but we both have busy schedules and he knows i haven't been available. he knows i'll be available this weekend, im not sure if i should wait and see what he does or suggest a date myself or end it or what