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This is my first time posting to this subreddit. So, I (F27) moved a few hours away from my hometown. I had a community of people I really care for. In a few days my boyfriend will be going out of town so I'm planning to spend a few days there to see my family and friends.

I didn't tell many people that I moved. I was having a lot of personal issues in the months leading up to it that I spoke openly about. However, the problem is that 1. the only people who seemed to truly "be there" for me were not my women friends but my guy friends. And the only people who checked up on me after I moved were my guy friends. So there is always something in the back of my mind that asks myself if I ever actually made a true friend who didn't have ulterior motives to hookup or whatever. One of my girlfriends straight up ghosted me after I told her I was having a tough time.

It's extremely upsetting to think that the people I care so deeply for kind of only want to hear about the drama but never actually wanted to help me. and the ones who did try and help me only did so because they wanted to hit it. I'm scared to go back because of the resentment I feel toward these fairweathered friends. I don't know if it's unrealistic for me to even expect this but I've spent a lot of time with these people for two years. Should I just let it go, move on and find new people? It genuinely feels like a special community of people I've found. But I walk away feeling like I don't have any GENUINE friends who would still talk to me if I wasn't attractive... I've had dreams about this where I wake up crying. In the dream, one of my guy friends called me and told me he had feelings for me and I was disgusted because I see him as a brother. There was this girl who told me I need to drop people like this immediately because they'll only suck me dry of my energy. This is why I've valued my women friends more but they NEVER wanted to hang out one-on-one and are glued to the hip to their boyfriends.

Should I let this go? Has anyone gone through something similar?

I ask him repeatedly not to do this. I don't smoke weed so it's all his. We have a coffee table and he has his own desk. This isn't a pervasive issue but rather every couple days. When I tell him not to it goes over his head. I know many people will likely say just leave him, he doesn't respect you, and fair enough, this isn't the only issue we have. We are very different people. I also have OCPD which does not help the way this makes me feel in the slightest.

Do I sit him down and make it a genuinely serious conversation? Do I act sickening sweet about it? In the past when I've asked him to stop doing certain things it's a complete toss up: sometimes he'll listen, other times it goes over his head. He has ADHD but is very conscientious in other aspects of life which is why this is so confusing to me.

I just moved to Clearwater from Jupiter. While it obviously still gets busy at Jupiter, Juno Beach and Hutchinson Island in Jensen (my favorite beach of all time), my GOD I have never experienced having thousands of people 2 inches from me like I have here. Can't remember what beach I went to here in Clearwater, but it was one that somebody here on reddit said that it was "less busy". Idk what the hell they were talking about but I've never seen a crawling city on a beach. I feel like I can't even relax and have a nice time with that many people around. I am a woman in my 20s so I get pretty paranoid when it's so congested. In Jupiter, even on a Saturday you can walk a bit down the beach and find a spot where there's no people around...

Are there ANY beaches where I'll be able to get some breathing room? Bonus points if there's free parking.

Location: Stuart, Florida/Port St Lucie, FL/Jupiter, FL. I have tried to talk to actual attorneys about this but they can't be bothered.

The owner coerces employees in the initial interview, telling us he can basically ask him for money to pay off our bills. I know this because he said it to me directly and others. I never did it but I worked here for about 5 months and had several people tell me they sign off over 50% of their checks to him, basically guaranteeing he has employees for life. Even if they wanted to leave they couldn't because they owe him thousands of dollars. He pays employees' rent, car pmts, big ticket items from the shop.

Debt bondage is apparently a form of human trafficking. If I report it, several people who do want to work there will lose their jobs. He has about 7 stores total in all the cities I listed, that's a lot of employees. If I don't, the asshole keeps getting away with it. Would anonymously reporting this be the best way to go? Or do I just chalk this up to people making bad decisions?

I'm finishing up my BA in Psych this July. The problem is you can't do anything in the state of FL with a BA in Psychology until you have a master's, minimum. I have just as much interest in law, so much so that I'm considering pivoting.

I see the vast amount of paralegal openings. I think this will be a great way to pay for my master's and/or just support myself in general. Did you obtain your education through a university? A course? Word of mouth? Mutual friends? What's the best way to go about this, the AFFORDABLE way?