I’m 8 weeks postpartum and honestly just need to vent because I feel like I’m losing my mind a bit.
I’m currently staying at my mum’s house , and she has helped a lot, which I do appreciate. But at the same time, I feel like she keeps undermining me as a mum.
Today she put garlic in my baby’s formula and gave it to her without telling me. I only found out after smelling my baby’s bottle. Her reasoning was that my baby has been has been having breathing difficulties and congestion, so she thought it would help.
I was so angry and haven’t stopped crying because my baby is only 8 weeks old and I would never add anything to her milk, especially when she’s already having breathing issues. When I brought it up, she brushed it off like it was nothing.
She also keeps making comments like “I have a feeling you won’t be able to take care of her and you’ll call me in the middle of the night.” It’s really getting to me because I’m already exhausted, emotional, and trying my best. Hearing that constantly makes me feel like I’m failing even though I’m doing everything I can.
I want to go home and take care of my baby myself, but I’m scared that what she’s saying is right and that I might not be able to handle it. I don’t really need advice, I’m just so sad and angry. I’m usually independent and never need people’s help, but this is the only time I’ve ever really needed help and this is how it is. I’ve been dealing with sleep deprivation, my baby having a cold, and now the anxiety that I can’t trust my mum around my baby.