u/ExternalSomewhere923

I'm dating this guy for a year now and he just told me yesterday that one time when he was in the military him and his friends went to one of those massage shops where you pay 40,000 for a first time experience or something. He said it was really normal back then and he just did it once and for korean guys in the army at that time it wasnt a big deal. Is that true...?

EDIT: He's 46 yrs old and so far v normal lol

The scale just isnt moving at all and I'm so confused as to why! I'm in calorie deficit walking i sleep well I don't understand im so fat right now same weight as 40 weeks pregnant :( i had a c section

When did you start again?? How did you start again??? INSPIRE ME THANK YOU

I’m so tired of seeing moms who are clearly drowning, exhausted, running on fumes, doing childcare 24/7… and then defending absent husbands with “to be fair, he has work.”

Girl. Work is not the same thing. And I say this as someone who’s worked since I was 16. Part-time jobs, full-time jobs, graduated college, built a serious career, and I’m currently on maternity leave from that career.

Going to work for 8-12 hours a day? Leaving the house? Speaking to adults? Having a lunch break? Finishing a shift and clocking out? That is not comparable to being responsible for a baby every second of every day and night.

I would LOVE to go to work for 8 hours and leave my baby with someone I fully trust for free with zero guilt attached.

Childcare is relentless. There’s no commute home. No uninterrupted lunch. No “switching off.” And most moms are doing it while sleep deprived and recovering physically too.

So no, a husband working a job does not mean his responsibilities end when he walks through the door. You’ve been working too except your shift started overnight and never ended.

When he gets home, he should be parenting. Helping. Taking over. Picking up a shift. And unless you’re exclusively breastfeeding, yes, that should include nights too. The moment you both agreed to make a baby sleep deprivation was part of the package you BOTH signed up to. Not just you. Who thinks when they have a newborn they should be able to sleep through the night lol?

A lot of women aren’t struggling because motherhood itself is impossible. They’re struggling because they’re basically solo parenting in a marriage while being told their husband “works hard.” I don't know how I'd have managed these first three months if my husband used his job as an excuse not to help.

So can we please stop romanticizing women burning themselves into the ground while men get applauded for going to work?

I’m so tired of seeing moms who are clearly drowning, exhausted, running on fumes, doing childcare 24/7… and then defending absent husbands with “to be fair, he has work.”

Girl. Work is not the same thing. And I say this as someone who’s worked since I was 16. Part-time jobs, full-time jobs, graduated college, built a serious career, and I’m currently on maternity leave from that career.

Going to work for 8-12 hours a day? Leaving the house? Speaking to adults? Having a lunch break? Finishing a shift and clocking out? That is not comparable to being responsible for a baby every second of every day and night.

I would LOVE to go to work for 8 hours and leave my baby with someone I fully trust for free with zero guilt attached.

Childcare is relentless. There’s no commute home. No uninterrupted lunch. No “switching off.” And most moms are doing it while sleep deprived and recovering physically too.

So no, a husband working a job does not mean his responsibilities end when he walks through the door. You’ve been working too except your shift started overnight and never ended.

When he gets home, he should be parenting. Helping. Taking over. Picking up a shift. And unless you’re exclusively breastfeeding, yes, that should include nights too. The moment you agreed to a make a baby shared sleep deprivation was part of the package and you both signed up for it, not just you.

A lot of women aren’t struggling because motherhood itself is impossible. They’re struggling because they’re basically solo parenting in a marriage while being told their husband “works hard.” If I didn't have my husband take the baby off me as soon as he got home or do a night shift etc I don't know how I'd handle it.

So can we please stop romanticizing women burning themselves into the ground while men get applauded for going to work?

I just checked my weight for the first time since giving birth (I'm 8 weeks post partum) and I'm two kilos heavier than I was when I was 40 weeks pregnant!!! HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE?? I was sure I had lost weight !!! Now I'm going to have to lock in to start losing the weight and I dont know how !!

I should start using them but when I tried oh my god they were so itchy. Is that normal?

He conks out post bath and then I cant really wake him up. Is that normal??

My son (7 weeks old) is thankfully recovering from septic arthritis on his elbow. We came in very early and they performed a drainage surgery and he has been on IV antibiotics for 2 weeks exactly today. His CRP is 0.2, has had no fever for two weeks, and brain/kidney/heart scans are all clear. An elbow ultrasound yesterday also showed the fluid has cleared. He is moving his his hand very well and can lift his arm and bend his all the way, however it is still a bit stiff and he is not moving it the same amount as the other arm. My understanding is that 2 weeks is still on the early side and that it's normal to be at this level, however the doctor currently in charge of him feels very nervous and wants to run another MRI (he had one upon admission). The doctor wants to make sure there is no abscess or bacteria that reached the bone. I am nervous to put my son under sedation again for an MRI especially if he is already trending in the right direction. The orthopedic surgeon thinks an MRI is unnecessary, paediatrics are pushing. Orthopedics say even if it did the reach the bone the treatment is the same as now (antibiotics) and he's clearly responding well to it. I don't know what to do. Is 2 weeks too soon to be seeing normal movement again?