u/External-Patience-55

Hi guys. I F(22) have been dating my boyfriend M(26) for 11 months now. I am still farely new to relationships and dating bc I only started dating around 20 years old. There has been something that has been bugging me for the longest time ever. That something is side chicks. Can someone please expain to me why some men would have a girlfriend/wife and still have someone else on the side (i am not judging , just genuinely curious). For the sake of this argument lets assume that they are in a "happy" relationship.

I am asking this bc lately i kind of found out that my boyfriend has been seeing someone else. When i firts found out it really hurt me but I now can't seem to understand why he did it. We are intimate on a regular basis, have alot of deep discussions , i have met his friends and parents, ect. I am not saying that we have a perfect relationship but according to me we are doing just fine. I am past the stage of blaming myself bc i now understand that cheating or having a side chick sometimes have nothing to do with the main girlfriend (please correct me if I am wrong) but what I struggle to understand is why you would go looking for "love" / intimacy from someone else when you have it at home. Besides the "sex is just sex and it doesn't really mean anything to a man" reason, what other reasons are there for this type of behavior?

This is really stupid but i genuinely do not know what to do. So i F(22) have been dating my boyfriend M(27) for almost 11 months now. The relationship started off normal but after 3 months he had to move back to his city. Around 6 months i went to his city for a week to go visit him and it has been 5 months since we have last seen each other. We call about once a week , text messages are starting to die down and whatever, I am kinda worried that this might mean that the relationship is coming to an end but at the same time i also feel like maybe it is just a phase that we are going through. I sometimes go through his following on insta just to see if he has followed anyone new (i know i shouldn't be doing that lol). Last night i had a dream about him cheating on me with a specific girl that i have seen under his following. I don't know if this is God giving me a sign or if it is just a stupid dream. Our relationship hasn't been the best and there has been times where i felt like i wasn't the only one in his life but i just let it slide mainly bc i didn't want to loose him. Do I tell him about this dream or just keep quiet. I feel like if i tell him he might feel like i am accusing him of something that he might be innocent of and that might also cause unnecessary tension and drama in the relationship. WHAT DO I DO NOW GIRLS , because this dream is really bothering me. I'll be checking the comments for some advice.