Advice needed. I feel like me being open ruined everything.
I have a close guy friend that I have had a "crush" on for 10+ years start flirting with me over text. We live in different states now so I knew it wasn't going to be anything serious. I have lost 120 pounds in the past year. So it started as him telling me how amazing I looked and then the comments turned a lot more sexual. I have gained some confidence with my weight loss so I flirted back.
He brought up the idea of flying out to see me in a couple of weeks. Of course, I got excited. We chatted all day but never set anything in stone. Our chats ended on a good note. But then I didn't hear back for a couple of days. So I reached out and sort of confessed that I had always had a bit of a thing for him and that I would really love it if he could make it out to see me.
He got really defensive and it wasn't fair for me to put my feelings out there when I know how much he is going through right now (he is going through a divorce). Then he said he didn't want to hurt me but needed to step back.
I was completely caught off guard by this. He is the one that initiated everything. And brought up the idea of coming to see me. I feel like I did something wrong. It's been a week now and I am still confused and hurting.
Why did he do this?