For context, I’m 18F and she’s 23F. She recently graduated, and previously was living in a dorm because she is a resident advisor (meaning she got to earn money living there and also did not have to pay the school rent), now she has moved back into the family home, and she is not paying rent, groceries, etc. until her move in date for her new apartment which is in two months. Now onto my problem with her.
The thing that started it all was when she moved back in. On the same day she moved in, she started criticizing my bed because I use the underside of it as storage. It’s not garbage or anything, just unsorted stuff , and I keep all of my mess contained under my bed. Anyway, she got obscenely mad about it? Like fully had a crash out and was saying how I am so “disgusting and messy and dirty” and that she “can’t live like this because it’s messing with her feng shui”. At this point I was visibly annoyed and irritated by this, and I came to reddit for advice and was advised to try to make peace with her and to use a bed skirt to hide the mess so that she won’t be visually bothered by it. I followed that advice and got a bed skirt, because I thought whatever it’s her first day back she might be stressed and lashing out, let me do this one thing
Since then, I’ve mostly resorted to ignoring her / not reacting to some of her “ragebait” to prevent future conflict.
Fast forward to today: I was in the kitchen having a conversation with my other older sister, and I was really into the conversation, so I said something in a loud tone to this other sister, and I want to clarify that it was not an angry tone. Immediately, the annoying sister in question butts in and goes, “STOP YELLING, OH MY GOD.” To which I replied and said “20 minutes ago you were fighting with my other sister just as loudly, don’t correct me over nothing”. She replied back saying “Stop being so disrespectful + a threat that I can’t post here without being taken down. So whatever , I wake away and say that she was an “entitled annoying loser who can’t think of anyone but herself”.
Now everyone keeps saying I took it too far. But she constantly presses my buttons and genuinely feels like she’s rage-baiting me on purpose. Tell me why, after that fight, she goes to my mom saying, “OMG, this girl has problems. She’s always angry,” as if she wasn’t the one threatening to slap me?? And then to top it off, two hours later she goes to my mom and says “ I have this work assignment that requires me to code something but I don’t understand it can you ask *my name* to explain it to me since this is her major” LIKE WHAT?? AFTER YOU YELLED AT ME AND LASHED OUT FOR NO REASON WHY WOULD I HELP YOU?? I feel like that’s another reason why I think she is entitled.
I genuinely feel like I’m going crazy here. So AITAH / AIO