u/Existing-Ordinary768

i’m watching season eight now where Lexi and Jesse have been exclusive for like two weeks so I get that they’re not super serious and it is the summer house after all, but his flirting with Ciara and the fact that she went along with it is super strange when everyone is claiming that she and Paige are such girls girls.

She low-key rolled her eyes and looked weirded out and mad Lexi brought their flirting (while she was gone that weekend ofc) up in front of all the girls, too, which was kind of rude honestly. I feel like she’s just really standoffish to new girls especially and it’s a bit offputting.

I mean, I still don’t think she deserved what Amanda West did, but I just feel like she’s not this warm girls girl that everyone seems to make her out to be.

This is a really uncomfortable thing that I’ve noticed lately. I (27F) have been with my boyfriend (30) for 8 months now. Throughout the course of our relationship, he has said or done some offputting things that I sort of brushed off because he’s genuinely such a sweet guy. I know that’s a cliché. Oh, but he’s such a good guy. He is very thoughtful and giving, and his love language is acts of service and he does things without even asking and very in love with me.

Some of the red flags/ possessive moments:
\-he got a bit aggressive with a guy who came up platonically for 10 seconds. claims “of course he just wanted to f* you)
\-he said that he wishes he could slap his ex and her best friend (full quote “I wish i could slap that b****”) was one of the more shocking recent ones.
\-he’s refers to gorgeous celebrity women and “jokes” about how they have perfect bodies. Still pulls these jokes when he knows they make me upset and then puts the blame on me for getting sad.
\-got angry/ moody at me for not giving him my every move when my friends were in town (the 3 hours he wasn’t there)
\-Has jokingly slapped my face while just laying in bed…like a slow, not full follow-through, but will go and put his hand on my cheek in an abrupt sharp way
\-he has also slapped me lighting during sex without prior conversation or warning. I’ve told him both things make me uncomfortable.

Overall he’s just really giving me the ick lately and he seems possessive and just too insecure for my liking. He also seems to be really lustful himself towards celebrities and gorgeous women so I don’t know where he gets off on trying to control what I do.

I don’t know for certain if he would ever be violent towards me if I broke up with him, but now I’m starting to worry about what his true thoughts that go on in his head are. I don’t know if I should break up with him, especially of course, awful timing. Given his birthday is in a few weeks and I’d feel bad breaking his heart before then.

tl;dr: My (27F) boyfriend (30) lately has been saying and doing things that make me uncomfortable pertaining to violence against women and his ex and also overly objectifying women and myself. I think I should break up with him, but I don’t know for sure or how to do it.

This is a really uncomfortable thing that I’ve noticed lately. I (27F) have been with my boyfriend (30) for 8 months now. Throughout the course of our relationship, he has said or done some offputting things that I sort of brushed off because he’s genuinely such a sweet guy. I know that’s a cliché. Oh, but he’s such a good guy. He is very thoughtful and giving, and his love language is acts of service and he does things without even asking and very in love with me.

Some of the red flags/ possessive moments:
-he got a bit aggressive with a guy who came up to ask about my visible tattoo. Meanwhile, he works as a bartender? claims “of course he just wanted to f*** you)
-he said that he wishes he could slap his ex and her best friend (full quote “I wish i could slap that bitch”) was one of the more shocking recent ones.
-he’s refers to gorgeous celebrity women and “jokes” about how they have perfect bodies. Still pulls these jokes when he knows they make me upset and then puts the blame on me for getting sad.
-got angry/ moody at me for not giving him my every move when my friends were in town (the 3 hours he wasn’t there)
-Has jokingly slapped my face while just laying in bed…like a slow, not full follow-through, but will go and put his hand on my cheek in an abrupt sharp way
-he has also slapped me lighting during sex without prior conversation or warning. I’ve told him both things make me uncomfortable.
-this is a more random one that sort of raised my internal red flags was he wants me to wear pigtails and suck on a lollipop while “bouncing on” him during the deed- is that not weird?! giving little girl vibes

Overall he’s just really giving me the ick lately and he seems possessive and just too insecure for my liking. He also seems to be really lustful himself towards celebrities and gorgeous women so I don’t know where he gets off on trying to control what I do.

I don’t know for certain if he would ever be violent towards me if I broke up with him, but now I’m starting to worry about what his true thoughts that go on in his head are. I don’t know if I should break up with him, especially of course, awful timing. Given his birthday is in a few weeks and I’d feel bad breaking his heart before then.

tl;dr: My (27F) boyfriend (30) lately has been saying and doing things that make me uncomfortable pertaining to violence against women and his ex and also overly objectifying women and myself. I think I should break up with him, but I don’t know for sure or how to do it.

Expose yourselves lol

I’m on season 8 where they’re prepping to get married. Lindsey accusing him of not being sober was insane! Really bad spot to be in before marriage. I wonder if they were truly in love or if it was more of a long-time friend love and they thought it made the most sense, then couldn’t stand each other once they were actually in it and doing it. The convo with his parents was so cringe lol