Father keeps dangling my living situation in my face.
I (30F) moved in with my father (61M) 6 months ago after getting a divorce. The plan was he will move in with his girlfriend in March after her roommate moves out. I never asked for this living situation, my ex moved out of the house we were renting and I could have afforded it, but it would have stretched my finances so thin. My family reached out and asked if I wanted to get an apartment. I said sure, wasn’t looking forward to the drama ahead.
After apartment searching we couldn’t find anything, so my dad offered me to move in and I will lease his house out in March when he moves in with his girlfriend. Months in and months out, my dad changes rules here and there. I have boxes still piled up at the door because I thought I would get the upstairs to move the stuff when he moves out. (2 bedroom 1 bathroom small house). Yesterday, after giving him $700 for rent (my half) he is demanding I give him $400 more. My dad lives paycheck to paycheck. He got knee surgery and has missed out on work. I know he’s stressed. The way he approached it is texting me that I am going to give him $500 a week in the lease and he wants to sell the house now. He said I am mooching (I am not I have been paying him) and he keeps moving the goal post. One day it’s give me 1200 and I will pay the utilities while I live with girlfriend so you can get ahead. Next it’s I am selling the house get out in a week. It’s very stressful as a new single mom.
I am used to this behavior, my dad and my mother were addicts and I actively helped them pay for their housing when I was making good money ten years ago. I never asked for anything my whole life, I knew I wouldn’t get it. I never even asked to move in it was offered to me. I am a little bitter over my childhood, it affected me that my parents were addicts and we were homeless and at a young age I had to pick up pieces. I don’t tell him, sometimes I post things in snap about how my childhood affected my adult life and I’m just now realizing it. My family tells him these posts and he gets upset. I’m not completely dunking on him I just post things like I wonder what it was like to be treated on a silver platter type stuff. My parents didn’t do anything beyond putting a roof over my head and feed me, which I am learning is bare minimum for parents.
Again I don’t hold it against my dad. I have a good work ethic because of the things I dealt with in my past. Anyways, I just want some insight, should I move out of this house and not have this tie to my father any longer. Or should I stay? If I stay he needs to write out a contract stating how much I am going to be owing, because I am not paying 500/week for this little house. The agreement was $1200. Would it be worth staying? Every time he gets into an argument over this house he saying different things and different amounts and changing the goal post. Should I just write my losses and get a different place for me and my daughter?
TL;DR: I (30F) moved in with my ex addict father (62M) with the intentions that he will move out in March. I would take over the payments in his mortgage. He keeps changing the goal post saying “I want $500 a week” or “find a place to stay in a week I want to sell the house” calling me a mooch even though I’ve been paying him. It’s been very stressful because I’m new to being a single mother and I had a place to live but he gave me this offer instead and I took it trusting him. My other rent was $2000 and I could have stayed there but he wanted to “help” and said I couldn’t afford that place. I would have never moved from my house if he didn’t offer this. Any insight? Should I cut my losses and move on?