u/Excellent-Lawyer4167

He told me he never loved me or cared about me and then dumped me. A week later, he had the audacity to ask for sexual favors.I te​xted him all the reasons that he's a terrible person and why I would never have physical relations outside of a committed relationship. He proceeded to discard and block. But I​ have a feeling he will unblock, hoover, and I'll insult him for having​ the audacity to think I forgot what he did. And then he will block again. In the past, he would call me from other​ numbers. How do I get rid of this trauma bond? I notice that the​ narcissists love​ ppl with anxious attachment.

I met this guy​ online and​ he said he wanted to go on a date. The day of the date he didn't text me. And a week later said he had work come up and it sucks we couldn't meet. I stopped texting him. I told him I​ figured he was not interested in dating. He​ asked for a second chance but wants me to plan it since he's not from my city. So I gave him a list of options: park + coffee, boba + museum/park, cheap lunch​ spot. He decided no, let's do clubbing or hiking. Then why ask me to plan?? I told him I'm not comfortable going clubbing or hiking on a first date. He also suggested his house for a first date. I askes him if he's looking for a hookup. He said no. I figure this guy will be a no show for the date. We finally decided on boba at 2 pm next weekend. On the day of date, should I confirm or should I let​ him? I honestly want him to put some effort in texting instead of me confirming on the day of - especially since he(30 M) wanted to drive to see me(31 F). I live hour and a half away from him. ​Edit: Even the way he texts is low effort. But he says he's interested. I will write like an entire sentence and he's like 'kool'. He also told me he was a virgin but was in 3 relationships. How is that even possible? I'm asking him if he's asexual in the video chat. ​