u/Excellent-Choice8888

As title suggests

I (39F) have been dating this guy (39M) for 6 months. He hand down one of the most wonderful person I've talked to. I don't have any problem with him as a person, and he's just super my type in many ways.

Problem is he has few life circumstances that aren't great for me. One of those is he has a young child, the ex abandoned both of them but still has custody rights.

I told him from the beginning that I don't want to date single dad(s), I really admire their efforts but it's not for me. Somehow he's still able to convince me that we could make it work, plus the fact that I'm just really interested in him.

Fast forward up to now, though I really enjoy him as a person, just thinking about his child, and another problem he's dealing with, a lot of time I just feel the relationship is an endurance. And I just have many risks, like I don't know how would I feel if he ex would come back since she still can visit the child.

I haven't met the child in person (seen plenty of times on video calls) due to it's very hard for me to get a visa to visit his country, and his child doesn't have a passport, nor ever fly yet for him to bring to me.

Realistically, it would take 2 years for us to close the gap, if things go right. And I just feel tired with waiting and everything.

Sometimes it's hard for me to even talk to him about what bother me, since he's either too busy, or he has too much things to take care of, that he's stressed out by other things, and I don't want to put more burden on him.
And when I'm able to talk to him about those, he usually convinces me we still can figure things out.

I told him many times to find someone else more suitable or who is more loving/ accepting than me, he seems still think that I'm the right one.

I can't just leave him, I just don't feel it right. I don't want to stay as I feel very uncomfortable. I just don't know what to do.

Tl;dr: I feel bad/guilty if I just leave; I feel uncomfortable staying. What to do (or to be)?

I'm 39F native Vietnamese speaker, I tutored Vietnamese for a while previously.
I speak Northern Vietnamese if it's important for you.

I'm looking for women who can be a language exchange partners of either Japanese or French, (or both).

You don't need to be native speaker of those languages, as I'm at zero level at the moment.

Preferable if you use Whatsapp or Messenger.

Thank you!