u/Evening_Car_2395

my 11 week old, who has coslept since birth has struggles to stay asleep in the first 30-60 minutes of bedtime. she will latch, unlatch over and over. sometimes falls asleep for 5 mins after unlatching and then fusses for the boob again.

i have tried shorter and longer wake windows, 6-7 bedtime, 7-8 bedtime, side lying nursing, holding her cradled nursing then putting her down. she refuses paci 99% of the time, but will accept it if she is suuuper dysregulated. this typically happens when she’s been nursing on and off for a while im assuming she’s full but still wants to suck. she then does the same thing with the paci.

the confusing part is she will stay asleep for 2-10 mins without sucking then wake up over and over.

any advice or explanation welcome!

my baby has exclusively contact napped her whole 10 weeks of life. i have continued to attempt nap transfers because i NEED independent naps as i have a toddler.

the issue is 99% of the time she just wakes up. the 1% of the time it works, she only naps 5-15 mins.

i dont have the time, ability, or mental capacity to save naps if the transfer fails. anyone else give up on nap if the transfer fails? did you have any issues with that?